Poppies and Pencilshavings

Ten Years

2012-02-06T22:22:00.001-05:00

I've never had trouble telling you how much I love you. My only trouble is that my words have never been enough.

Ten years. When they said time flies, they weren't kidding. Here you are, ten years later, yet I can still get whiffs of that baby smell. But I can tell that you continue to grow and become more complex. How I wish I could keep life simple for you. Or, maybe not...

You are incredible in how expressive you are - too expressive at times, but I always know where you stand. I like that. You are fascinating in that you exude such spirit and you inspire such love. I've seen how you've touched and softened people, completely unaware.

When you read this, you may say "Oh my gosh, mommy. You are so dramatic." One day you will know it isn't me - it is my heart. It is you. YOU are my heart, my lil' one.

Thank you for being my daughter.

Happy Birthday!

Mommy

Love is Heavy...

2012-02-06T21:44:00.001-05:00

Love is heavy...

No Room for Fear

2012-01-24T21:15:00.000-05:00

I confess that when my mentor recommended that I do a presentation for the chamber of commerce, my stomach ached a bit, but I said yes. I couldn't say no. I asked him to be my mentor, he accepted, and now he is pushing. That's what I asked for, so that's what I am getting.

I'm not necessarily afraid of public speaking. I've done it enough times in the past to know I can do it, but it's been a while since I've spoken in front of a group, and I've spent so much time alone working from my home office, that it was quite a shift of gears - to say the very least. Long story, short - I did it!

Today, I hosted my first seminar and it was so exciting. So much so that I can't wait to do it again. By the time I started speaking, I stopped caring about whether I'd do a terrible job or not. I was really excited about my topic, and I wanted to share it with others pursuing their dreams. I was happy to be there for them.

Today reiterated a conversation I had with a friend yesterday about taking on high ambitions and having no room for fear. It occurred to me that this past year, I've taken on challenges that I typically would have talked myself out of. I've said yes to things I would have found a reason to say no to. I've said things out loud that I would have just quietly wished for, and it's amazing how these dreams are coming to life.

So all this to say, be loud and be clear when you share your dreams with the Universe. Try something different. Something exciting. No matter how trivial; no matter how trying. Just do it. Don't just dream. Chase those dreams and challenge your fears. The worse that can happen is that you try, maybe fail, and you keep it moving. You keep trying.

Curly Bangs & a Twist Out - Day 2

2012-01-23T11:00:00.000-05:00

My latest curly hair experiments include extending a twist-out past day 2, and curly bangs.

I did manage a 3 day twist-out last week, but didn't get a picture. During my next twist out I will challenge myself to get past day 3.

How to Get Awesome Rollersetting Results

2012-01-22T20:44:00.000-05:00

Today's roller-set turned out so lovely, I had to share some tips. I was actually surprised by the results - smoother, shinier, softer than ever. Here's what I did.

THE DAY BEFORE ROLLER-SETTING
1. Shampoo hair.
2. Apply conditioner and distribute evenly. Squeeze out excess.
3. Apply honey generously and distribute evenly from root to ends. Squeeze out excess.
4. Wrap your hair in a towel to remove excess water and product. DO NOT rub, just wrap the towel and allow it to do the work.
5. Section hair into two sections to make two side french braids.
6. Apply extra virgin coconut oil from root to ends and braid.
7. Leave on hair all day and overnight.

ON ROLLER-SET DAY
1. Shampoo your scalp. Allow the suds to gently wash the rest of the hair. Just focus on the scalp and roots to minimize dry ends.
2. Apply apple cider vinegar to your hair (from root to ends); ensuring you soak your ends. I use Bragg Apple Cider Vinegar. It is the BEST! DO NOT RINSE.
3. Apply conditioner to the hair from root to ends and distribute evenly. Leave on the hair for AT LEAST two minutes. Rinse thoroughly.
4. Section hair in preparation for your roller-set. Apply a bit of extra virgin coconut oil to each section.
5. As your roller-set your hair, make sure the ends are thoroughly wet for super smooth ends.

WHILE UNDER THE DRYER
1. You must make sure your hair is COMPLETELY dry before unraveling your roller-set. This is key for optimal results.

2. Read 10 Things to do While Sitting Under the Dryer to keep you entertained, and ensure you have a dry roller-set. Today I wrote a post about my curly bangs, and drew aliens with my lil' one.

3. Once you get out of the dryer, allow your hair to cool down before unraveling.

Results:
GREAT! This is the smoothest roller-set I have achieved since I started roller-setting months ago.

I Wear Jewelry Now + Curly Bangs

2012-01-22T12:39:00.002-05:00

My lovely clients are immersing me in fashion and jewelry. Years ago, I couldn't have imagined having so much fun - WORKING! Years ago, I wouldn't have imagined myself working in the fashion industry. But here I am, and it's been quite a ride. I can't wait to see what develops this year.

I am also trying to do something different with the front of my hair. I love twist-outs, but my current challenge is figuring out how to still allow my hair to fall naturally. I don't want a sculpted look. I have bangs that are still growing out. I usually try to blend them into the rest of my curls. This day I tried to let them come out and play.

I was never one to wear much jewelry, but when in Rome...

Here, I am wearing a handmade necklace from Chronicle Stones. After being gifted this gorgeous piece, I had to pair it with the right dress. I wanted a dress that left my neck and shoulders exposed. I went to my new favorite shop, Modern Grace Boutique, in search of a dress for a casual evening out on the town. I couldn't believe I found this dress with just a touch of that burnt orange in the necklace!

Mark Your Calendars - Fashion Quest 2012 in Orlando Florida

2012-01-18T11:37:00.002-05:00

I am super excited to support Fashion Quest 2012! Mark your calendars fashionistas and style mavens - Fashion Quest is coming on March 3, 2012.

What is Fashion Quest?
It's Orlando's first Dash for Fashion - a one day, interactive, live event sponsored by local fashion and beauty businesses. Participants have a chance to win store specials, discount coupons, fabulous clothes, and one of a kind jewelry!

How?
Participants follow clues online, and have access to fashion and beauty tips and quizzes. The day of the live event you will receive a status update leading you to local boutiques where you will find the online clues in an attempt to win prizes. How fun!

There are several boutiques involved and more than a dozen prizes to be awarded.

Big Finale!
The event ends with an after party at Urban Rethink. All the prizes will be awarded there. Music, food, drinks and desserts will be provided. You can also look forward to a trunk show, beauty samples, and a swag bag of goodies for all!

Like Fashion Quest on Facebook for all the updates, trend reports, and giveaways!

Hmmm... Who will be my partner in fashion crime?

In Search of an Outfit for My Upcoming Presentation

2012-01-14T08:59:00.001-05:00

Countdown - 10 days left to my upcoming Social Media Marketing presentation. I am going over my notes, tweaking my introduction to death, and making sure I'm cutting down on my "ummm's". But what will I wear???I haven't bought a suit in YEARS! So I am planning to run to the stores in search of the perfect presentation outfit. My first thought was a suit, but I'm having a change of heart. I think a dress will suit me best. I want to look like a mature professional, yes. But I also want to wear some energy, creativity and fun. After all, marketing and design are about energy, creativity and fun. So here are some dresses I am considering.

This Michael Kors Tweed Belted Dress, complete with a brown leather belt, might be just the dress for my upcoming presentation.

I this this Trina Turk Mariposa Ponte Dress has a lovely silhouette with the draped side pleats on one side, giving it a touch of modernity and flare, but still professional.

Red? Yes, red. This Nanette Lepore dress is bold! I like V neck, spread collar, and cap sleeves. This would make for an interesting look for a presentation. I love the bold red and the contrasting black "belt"; the bows giving a hint of femininity.

A standout - this Moschino Sleeveless Color Block DressBlack and white block dress with gold accents - could work. I'm guessing the model is way taller than I am, so the dress may not look so short on me.

Back to a more professional look.

Gorgeous! Still hoping this wouldn't be as short on me.

I am a black-and-white print aficionado. and I love the smart stripes in this Ralph Lauren Cowl Neck Striped Dress. Fresh and modern, just what I'm looking for.

Okay, so decision has been made. I'm going for a dress. Now, what about the shoes???

Love & Happiness,Carmen

Meditation on Will

2012-01-09T12:07:00.000-05:00

Whatever your position in life, it is you who put yourself there.

The human will, when led by ignorance, causes nothing but confusion and trouble; but if it is tuned in with wisdom, it is guided by the Divine Will.

Constantly carrying a thought with dynamic will power will strengthen that thought until it becomes an outward force. When your will power is developed to that extent, you can control your destiny.

Always be sure that what you want is right for you to have, then use all the forces of your will power to attain your objective, continually keeping your mind on God. Your efforts will then be crowned with success.

--- by Paramahansa Yogananda

Meditation on Intuition

2012-01-05T11:07:00.002-05:00

Intuition is the discriminative faculty that enables you to decide which of two lines of reasoning is right. Perfect intuition makes you a master of all knowledge.

Your will and intuition should go hand in hand. A person with a strong will usually has an active intuitional power. You should develop the latent intuitive faculty; it can grow only through meditation.

Do not make unimportant things important, nor concentrate on trifles at the expense of vital matters, or you will hamper your progress.

Impulsive actions that are not keeping with one's real duties are undesirable. Let soul intuition guide your thinking, and then proceed confidently in any undertaking.

--- Paramahansa Yogananda

2012 Goal Map: Where Are You Now? Where Do You Want to Go?

2012-01-02T11:53:00.000-05:00

Years ago, a colleague shared this goal setting map with me and it clicked with me immediately. I never got around to actually illustrating it, but I did use the elements within it to make a plan for myself, which resulted in a career transition and lifestyle change.

This year I was inspired to actually visualize my goals for the year. It's simple and a really great exercise.

1. Start by taking inventory of where you are now. This includes the good, the bad, and the ugly. It's a realistic snapshot of your current situation and environment.

2. Then determine where you want to go; your major goals for the year. My list included business, personal, and financial goals. Again, make this a realistic snapshot of attainable goals. It's much more satisfying to take baby steps towards the finish line, than to attempt leaps and not make it at all. Also, don't bombard yourself with too many goals. You want to keep it simple, prioritized and focused.

3. Brainstorm. How are you going to get from where you are now to where you want to be? This is where you can be ambitious, silly, opportunistic, creative. List anything that comes to mind when it comes to getting to your destination. Don't worry about whether it's dumb or silly or unrealistic. You are just fueling yourself with ideas.

4. Identify the strengths in your life. I included a new partnership, some opportunities, resources, and support streams. I kept my goals in mind when listing my strengths. I also kept in mind individuals that will keep me motivated if and when I am confronted with lows throughout the year.

5. What are the first three things you will do to start implementing your plan? Oftentimes, the hardest part is actually starting a plan; figuring out where to begin. Start with the first three steps, then the rest will evolve.

This was a great way to start the new year and I look forward to working towards my goals.

Happy New Year!!!

Hair, Handbags, Dresses & Escapes

2011-12-30T14:57:00.001-05:00

My latest preferred hair style is a wavy ponytail. Long hair is hot - literally. This can be good for cold winter days, but here in Florida, winter can be quite warm, and long hair can feel like a furnace. So, one day, while packing up my mobile office for a meeting I put my hair up in a ponytail and I liked it. My hair was off my neck, which in turn was cooler, and it worked. I've been wearing my hair this way ever since.

Top - Interi. Store - Modern Grace Boutique.

As you may know, one of my newest clients is a favorite local boutique, Modern Grace Boutique. I love the idea of supporting small local businesses as well as lesser known but lovely fashion designers. I've always been more into style than labels, so Modern Grace Boutique and I, are a perfect match. I snatched this white top from the $20 clearance rack! You know I have a thing for white tops.


Dress - Mustard Seed. Bag - FunTote. Store - Modern Grace Boutique.

A couple of weeks ago, I made a run for it and went on a much needed escape. Much needed because 2012 is gearing up to be quite a ride. My bag of choice for my travels - a FunTote. It's perfect. I can pretty much fit my house in this bag, and it still looks good. To top it off, I love black and white anything. Yes, it's from Modern Grace Boutique. So is the dress (skort), by the way. What's not to love about this dress? A knitted top, fastened by vintage-looking silver buttons, a waist-flattering belt, and a clingy soft suede bottom that looks like a skirt, but functions like shorts. Ooh, and you can't really see it, but I'm also wearing my Dana's Canary ring from Glitterrings. Excuse my posture. Don't know what was going on there.

I actually meant to do a roller-set before my escape, but it was such a spur-of-the-moment decision, that I had to just wash-n-go. Worked out okay. I didn't bring much product, so I only had a leave-in-conditioner and coconut oil to work with. There's my trusty new FunTote again. Modern Grace has this bag in a number of patterns and colors. I may have to go back for another one.

Feeling Irritable? Light an Orange Candle

2011-12-30T13:43:00.001-05:00

Today I woke up feeling irritable and I couldn't pinpoint why. I immediately started cleaning my kitchen. For reasons I cannot explain, when I am upset I tend to clean. This was helping a bit, but I still had this lingering discomfort. I then decided to light an orange candle to break down the blues and bring out the cheer.

"Many of our healing needs can be met by the use of color to bring harmony and balance within the psyche and the body. The invisible vibrations of color can either relax or stimulate us according to the colors chosen for healing."*

I chose orange because it inspires creativity, the ability to speak one's mind, ambition, self-confidence, and cheer. The cheer part was important to me this morning.

I lit my candle, took a few deep breaths, and focused on cheer.

Something I have been mindful of as of late is to do something, anything; big or small, to alter any negative feelings. Sometimes it's blogging. Sometimes it's cleaning. Sometimes it's going for a brisk walk. Other times it's drawing, listening to a song I enjoy, or taking pictures. Today, I lit a candle. I'm still antsy, but lighting the candle has softened the edge.

I'm going to clean out my closet now :)

* Lilian Verner-Bonds, Color Healing

Newsprint Gift Wrapping

2011-12-19T01:08:00.000-05:00

This is my favorite method of wrapping gifts - newspaper print. I've been wrapping my gifts in newspaper print for the last four years and I think I'll stick to it. It's interesting, has great visual texture and can be made to look very sophisticated or playful. This year I'm using yarn to make bows instead of the self-stick gift bows. I'm also going to play with layering tissue paper over the print and see what happens.

I know I certainly appreciate the details in packaging. I love it when I get a gift and want to keep the wrapping and boxes. It makes the gift all the more special.

Other bonuses - inexpensive and earth-friendly.

Bed and Breakfast

2011-12-18T22:58:00.000-05:00

This is a favorite song of mine. I uploaded this song to my iPod a few weeks ago, and have been listening to it every so often. But this evening, I played it over and over while working, until I just had to translate it and share it. It's a beautiful melodic, rhythmic song; with delightful words, sung by an artist with a lovely soothing voice - Roberto Carlos. Today, music was my therapy. Enjoy.

Quiero ser tu canción desde el principio al fin.
Quiero rozarme en tus labios y ser tu carmín.
Ser el jabón que te suaviza, el baño que te baña.
La toalla que deslizas por tu piel mojada.

Yo quiero ser tu almohada, tu edredón de seda.
Besarte mientras sueñas y verte dormir.
Yo quiero ser el sol que entra y da sobre tu cama.
Despertarte poco a poco, hacerte sonreír.
Quiero estar en el más suave toque de tus dedos.
Entrar en lo más íntimo de tus secretos.
Quiero ser la cosa buena, liberada o prohibida.
Ser todo en tu vida...

Todo lo que me quieras dar, quiero que me lo des.
Yo te doy todo lo que un hombre entrega a una mujer.
Ir más allá de ese cariño que siempre me das.
Me imagino tantas cosas, quiero siempre más.

Tú eres mi dulce desayuno, mi pastel perfecto.
Mi bebida preferida el plato predilecto.
Yo como y bebo de lo bueno y no tengo hora fija.
De mañana, tarde o noche no hago dieta.
Y este amor que alimenta a mi fantasía,
Es mi sueño, es mi fiesta, es mi alegría.
La comida más sabrosa, mi perfume, mi bebida.
Es todo en mi vida...

Todo hombre que sabe querer,
Sabe dar y pedir a la mujer.
Lo mejor y hacer de ese amor
Lo que come, que bebe, que da, que recibe.

El hombre que sabe querer,
Y se apasiona por una mujer,
Convierte su amor en su vida,
Su comida y bebida, en la justa medida.
El hombre que sabe querer...

I want to be your song from beginning to end.
I want to rub myself over your lips and be your crimson rogue.
Be the soap that softens you, the bath that bathes you.
The towel you slide over your wet skin.

I want to be your pillow, your silk duvet.
Kiss you while you dream, and watch you sleep.
I want to be the sun that rises over your bed.
Waking you little by little, making you smile.
I want to be in the most gentle touch of your fingers.
Enter your innermost secrets.
I want to be that good, free, or prohibited thing.
Be everything in your life...

All that you wish to give me, I want you to give it to me.
I will give you everything a man surrenders to a woman.
And beyond that love that you always give me, I imagine so many things, I always want more.

You are my sweet breakfast, my perfect tart.
My drink of choice, the favorite dish.
I eat and drink all that is good, and I have no fixed time.
Morning, afternoon or evening, I follow no diet.
And this love that feeds my fantasy,
It is my dream, it is my feast, it is my joy.
The most delicious food, my perfume, my drink.
It is everything in my life...

Every man who knows how to love,
Knows how to give and ask of a woman
All the best and make of that love,
What he eats, he drinks, he gives, he receives.

The man who knows how to love,
And is impassioned for a woman,
Turns his love into his life.
His food and drink, in the right measure.

The man who knows how to love...

An Apple a Day - Apple Cider Vinegar Elixir Results So Far

2011-12-15T10:23:00.000-05:00

What's that saying about an apple a day keeping the doctor away?

Well last week, I started drinking an apple cider vinegar elixir on a daily basis. This was at the recommendation of my friend Shoshana at ShoshanaSpa. I wanted to share some thoughts on what's been happening since I started.

ENERGY
Yes, I have noticed a boost in energy. It's too early, maybe, to give all the credit to the apple cider vinegar, but I'm telling you that I've noticed that I have been a bit more alert lately. Ideas are coming to me faster, and there's a pep in my step. Really! I'll keep you posted on this.

HAIR
I think by now everyone knows that vinegar rinses are great for the hair. They smooth your hair cuticle and brighten up your strands. They make my curls bouncy, and i love that.

SKIN
I'm using diluted apple cider vinegar as an astringent for my face and neck. Apple cider vinegar is not known for its pleasant aroma, but it seems to fade away as it dries. I'm using it to cleanse my pores further, to brighten up my skin, and help fade away the dark blemishes left behind from my skin drama. I usually do this is in the evenings and I've noticed that in the morning my face is really smooth. Love that!

MY MOM
This past weekend my mother was over and I suggested she try a glass of the apple cider vinegar elixir. A few hours later my mom mentioned that she thinks the elixir might have gotten rid of the head congestion she was feeling and she reported not feeling bloated after lunch and dinner (as she oftentimes does). Again, it may be too early to credit the apple cider vinegar, but this is what she noted that day.

MY FRIEND
Yesterday, a friend of mine let me know that she started drinking the apple cider vinegar elixir after reading my first post. She said she felt the effects almost instantly. Mainly, energy, which is a significant concern of hers.

Ten Things To Do While Sitting Under the Dryer for a Rollerset

2011-12-12T22:30:00.000-05:00

The thought of sitting under a hair dryer; blowing hot air at you for an hour (or more) can be quite boring and unpleasant. However, it can be a good time to do something that you enjoy, or focus on something you've been putting off. Here are a few things I've done while under the dryer to keep me from losing my patience and ending up with undesirable results; in other words, my hair not drying all the way.

1. Read a book.

I read during bedtime and depending on how tired I am, I only read 2-3 pages at a time. Reading while sitting under the dryer is a good way to get a good chunk of reading time and transport yourself to another place.

2. Write a blog post or two.

I made up this list and drafted the illustrations for this post, while sitting under the dryer. What's more, I also started a few other drafts for future blog posts. This is a good time to focus and be productive since you kind of have no choice.

3. Knit a scarf.

I'm actually crocheting a scarf when I do my next roller set. This is a great time to do a craft project to keep your mind off the fact that you are under the dryer. I've crocheted while under the dryer before, many times finishing a project from start to finish. It's also a good time to learn how to crochet/knit if you are interested.

4. Watch your favorite movie, preferably a funny one.

Watching a movie (with captions since you can't hear anything) is a great idea. Usually by the time the movie is done or close to being done, so is your hair. I prefer to watch a funny movie just to keep things light while under the heat. We watched "I Want a Dog for Christmas, Charlie Brown" this weekend.

5. Catch up on your blog reading.

If you're a blogger, more than likely you have a handful of favorite blogs that you follow. Catching up on your blog reading while sitting under the hair dryer is a good way to keep informed, and make the time go faster. This is also a good time to discover new blogs!

6. A mani-pedi

Whether it's spa play with your lil' one, or girl time with your mom or best friend, since you're getting your hair done, why not get your nails done too? Keep in mind that the conversations will be loud, since you can't hear anything while under a hair dryer.

7. Clean up your email inbox.

When was the last time you did this? My inbox gets cluttered with so much mail and I can definitely do a better job of keeping my inbox minimal and organized. What better time to do it, then while confined to a chair for an hour (or more)? Unsubscribe, sort, delete, mark as spam, etc.

8. Clean out your purse.

I don't know about you, but my purses can get pretty junky. I stuff everything in them and I get attached to a purse for weeks at a time. This is a good time to go through your purse or purses, and get rid of the build-up, or even find something you've been looking for.

9. Recycle the piles of mail and papers you've accumulated.

What better time to go through that pile of mail and papers? Read through things, discard as necessary, organize the keepers. You'll have bouncy hair AND a clean desk in no time.

10. Play a board game.

Why not? This is a nice QT activity. You get to have fun and before you know it your rollerset is dry.

BONUS
Here's a bonus that's relevant to the season, write your holiday cards. I'm awful at writing holiday cards and will probably remain so, but if you are good at it, then this is a good time to take care of it.

Mama Said Knock You Out Tea

2011-12-12T22:00:00.000-05:00

The other night I made this tea for mom, lil' one, and myself. Not only was the tea delicious and warming, it also knocked all of us out for the night - as it was intended to do.

HERE'S THE MAGIC POTION:
Linden flowers (loose or tea bag)
Anise seeds (in an herb strainer)
Raw honey
Tea infuser

Bring water to a boil. Remove pot from the heat source. Add dried linden flowers and anise seeds (in a tea infuser to contain the leaves and seeds). Allow to steep for 10-15 minutes. Add a teaspoon of raw honey. Stir and enjoy.

There are tons of benefits to drinking tea daily. Check out this list of benefits at iVillage.com including antioxidants, reducing risk of heart attack and stroke, protecting your bones, fluoride and tannins that may keep plaque at bay, immune defenses booster, protects against cancer, helps to keep you hydrated, and increases your metabolism.

Here's to a good night sleep.

Mixing Business with Pleasure

2011-12-09T00:16:00.001-05:00

I try my best to keep work out of my P&P blog, but I'm currently working on a project that has brought together something that I have acknowledged to be of significance to me - fashion; something I didn't know I secretly dreamed of - working with a fashion boutique owner; and the work I do, and love to do. What I am also happy about is that this is a local client. I don't get to see the lovely people I work with, because they are all across the country. So it really is a treat when I can meet with my clients face to face. This being a fashion boutique, is the cherry on top.

When I stepped into Modern Grace Boutique for our first meeting, the first thing I did was SHOP. Grace Mendoza, the owner of Modern Grace Boutique, hand-selects fashion designs from all over the world. That being said, this means that many of her dresses and tops fit my extra-small petite frame perfectly. How cool is that? So, I tried on many dresses, checked myself, edited my selections, and purchased a beautiful handful of dresses, tops and accessories. Grace made it even more enticing when she shared that she is having a Buy One Get One Half Off Sale throughout the month of December. Aaaah!

After the shopping, Grace and I sat down and talked about her challenges and goals. To make a long story (I'll share the long version in my business blog soon) short and sweet - I am happy to share that we are working together!

This really is my new favorite fashion boutique in Orlando. Every time I go in to take pictures of new arrivals, I have to talk myself into self-control. I do buy, but carefully, because as you may know, I'm an aspiring minimalist. Coincidentally, this year I discovered my love of dresses. Dresses are simple, pretty you up instantly, and save time. So, coming across Modern Grace Boutique was perfect timing. My personal fashion goal is to have an arsenal of everyday and special occasion dresses in my wardrobe. I will then donate tops and bottoms that I don't wear often. Although, I have to say that I may not be donating much because I have been purging my closet throughout the year. I even have an EMPTY chest drawer.

So, all this to say that I thought I'd share a post I wrote on my professional blog showing a logo facelift for Modern Grace Boutique. Enjoy! Read more >

Apple Cider Vinegar - Beauty & Energy Booster

2011-12-07T17:48:00.001-05:00

One of my new favorite blogs is authored by a dear friend of mine, ShoshanaSpa. I truly do look forward to her posts, because each one shares a wonderful self-care and self-pampering recipe or treatment for better health, beauty and balance. Today's tip - apple cider vinegar.

Benefits include:
~ Illness deterrent
~ Balances the bodies pH levels
~ Anti-bacterial, anti-fungal and anti-viral properties
~ Rich in vitamins, minerals and trace elements including:
   ~ Potassium – helps to prevent brittle teeth, hair loss and runny noses
   ~ Pectin – helps to regulate blood pressure and reduce bad cholesterol
   ~ Malic Acid – anti-viral, anti-bacterial & anti-fungal
   ~ Calcium – helps create strong bones and teeth
   ~ Ash – Aids your body in maintaining proper pH levels for a healthy alkaline state
   ~ Acetic Acid – Slows the digestion of starch which can help to lower the rise in glucose that
     commonly occurs after meals

[source]

Today, I stopped by my local Chamberlin's Natural Foods to pick up a bottle of Bragg's Apple Cider Vinegar, recommended by Sho (stop by and subscribe to her blog - you won't regret it)

Recipe:
1-2 tsp raw & unfiltered apple cider vinegar - make sure to shake the bottle to get all the goodness
8 0z glass of purified water
1-2 tsp raw organic honey* (optional)

I'm starting tonight. Any apple cider vinegar advocates out there? What have your experiences been?

P. S.
Raw honey contains small amounts of a wide array of vitamins, minerals, amino acids and antioxidants. Depending on the floral variety, the vitamins found in honey may include niacin, riboflavin and pantothenic acid; minerals present include calcium, copper, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus, potassium and zinc. Just as the color and flavor of honey varies by floral source, so does the vitamin, mineral, antioxidant and amino acid content. The antioxidant and antimicrobial properties in honey aide in cell repair. Honey is a natural energy booster - a great way to start the day. Hence, a great addition to my ACV elixir.

My Latest Obsession - Dresses

2011-12-06T22:33:00.001-05:00

In the last couple of weeks I discovered a new favorite boutique and now client - Modern Grace Boutique ;)

This new discovery and partnership is enabling my latest obsession - dresses! So what is the big deal about dresses? What's not to love? When running late, a dress is a no-brainer; providing instant pretty and saving valuable time.

It's no surprise that my first meeting with Grace Mendoza, owner of the Modern Grace Boutique, resulted in lots of exciting discussions, great exchange of ideas, and some shopping! Her store is full-to-the-brim with lovely dresses, tops, jewelry and accessories; hand-picked from designers all over the country.

This is one of the dresses I snatched. Black and White - love. Pockets - love. Asymmetrical floral details - love.

Many fun bits of news to come from Modern Grace Boutique and many new dresses to share.

P.S. I think this purse will pair up perfectly with my new dress.

The many beautiful things

2011-11-29T23:57:00.001-05:00

The other day my BFF asked me why I take so many pictures of myself. I assured him it's not because I think I'm beautiful and need to be discovered. In this life of mine, I am my very own life experiment; my very own guinea pig. I think photography and self-portraiture is beautiful. I am always curious as to what I will capture. What an expression will hint at. What the colors will evoke. How light plays on the skin. I get to spill out one-thousand words in one picture.

I took this picture many months ago, but I hadn't found the right opportunity to use it, until today. When I look at this picture, it says a lot about me, actually. Things I'm proud of; things I'm not comfortable with, and things I may never be able to put into words. That's the beauty.

The past 30 days have been thrilling, emotional, and thought-provoking in the most subtle of ways, but grand, nonetheless. I finally biked a trail that I've been talking about for too long - and it felt like me. I'm challenging myself in a way that can be unnerving at times, but again, this feels like me. Things are happening, many things, and I am beside myself with anticipation and restlessness because there is not enough time in the day or enough of me to do it all NOW. But how I want to do it ALL, NOW.

All of a sudden. Out of the blue. Just like that. All at once. It is coming together. And I am in awe. But I'm reminded that I have been asking for this all along; willing this love, this confidence, these doors, this path, these adventures. I'm reminded that I have done some things right, not all things, but some things right, to get me to this point. What exactly is this point?

Feeling beauty. I adore how energizing and motivating, loving people, can be. I am humbled by the warmth of kindness. I feel happy when I can and want to help someone along. I honor those who genuinely confide in me, and hope to never let them down. I am thrilled to have found my place; what I love to do and how I love to do it. I think the day I decided to fight hard to stay in this path, the doors creaked open.

My latest beautiful moment and the reason I chose this picture - a dear friend reached out to me to work with her on a very tempting venture. Yes, it's business, but actually, it is so much more. If you know Sho, you know why. Long story, short. I feel like I must leap into this risky venture. The risks being my time for what may not be very fruitful, financially. But, I think of all the other things I will "gain".

The healing arts have always been in and out of my life, and I still cannot understand the times when they are not in my life because when they are, I am the very best Carmen - but I digress. Sho and I have discussed this business venture over a couple of times and we are still in the conceptual phase, but I stopped by Sho's blog to further digest this opportunity and hoping to see her vision. Oh, boy...

Reading the beauty that she is sharing made my heart skip and got the butterflies all aflutter. I was instantly smiling and taking deeper breaths as I was brought back to the things that have saved me, the things that matter to me, the things that I am lacking right now. I want them back, and I feel that taking this leap will help me bring back that healthful beauty I once held so dear. It also occurred to me that I have still not detoxified.

I'm not talking physically (though I am so overdue for that as well); I'm talking mentally and spiritually. Somehow, I have procrastinated on purging myself of some baggage (and if you know anything about my traveling habits, I don't like baggage). I keep telling myself I will, but not yet. Not yet? So why have I "chosen" to travel along life with such heavy loads? The thing is, it's not so much that I harp on this baggage, rummaging through the crap inside; looking for pain to wear. It's more so that I've just kept it there, and waste lots of energy stepping over it; pretending it's not there as I'm dragging it along. So, why not throw it out? Quite simply, I've been too exhausted. I have enough energy to put on my rose-coloured specs and focus on the beauty. I have enough energy to focus on my work. I have enough energy to get up, get dressed, and show up. But I haven't built up the strength or energy to toss those bags out the door. They will resist and put up a fight, and I just don't like confrontation. However...

In honor of this potential venture and all that it may bring and all that I can share, I am going to cleanse, energize and strengthen my body, mind and spirit. Some strength training to help me get rid of this baggage - at the very least, one load at a time. I'll start with a little movement.

Happy Thanksgiving Weekend

2011-11-23T17:54:00.001-05:00

25 Scarf Looks in 4.5 Minutes Video

2011-10-31T09:00:00.000-04:00

Who doesn't love to wear scarves? If the temperature is 68 degrees or below - outside/inside - I'm wearing a scarf. I have silk, cotton, and satin scarves. Solid colors, patterns, bold colors, muted colors. Long scarves. Short scarves. I can never have too many scarves. I smile at the thought of wrapping my neck in beautiful pieces of fabric. So, what a treat to stumble upon this video - 25 Ways to Wear a Scarf in 4 1/2 Minutes!

Enjoy!

A Week in the Life of Roller Set Curly Hair

2011-10-28T09:27:00.001-04:00

DAY 1

I used Redken's anti-humidy heat protectant gel to roller set my hair, help combat humidity, thereby minimizing touch-ups between washes. Also, smells lovely. By the way, if you need some tips on roller setting curly hair, check out Roller Setting 101!

PRODUCTS

1. Redken Align 12 Ultra-Straight Balm (applied on wet hair for roller set)

2. Virgin Coconut Oil (applied to dry hair after unraveling curlers)

3. Combo of castor oil and essential oils of rosemary and geranium (applied to hairline prior to pressing)

4. Garnier Fructis Flexible Control Anti-Humidity Hairspray (applied after pressing)

After stepping out of the hair dryer, I allowed my hair to cool for about 30 minutes before pressing the roots of my hair to further smoothen my roots. Prior to pressing I applied a bit of castor oil with a drop of geranium and rosemary essential oils to my hair line just for added protection and shine. I set my pressing comb to about 320-325 degrees.

NIGHT 1

I parted my hair in two, did two-strand french braids, followed by twisting into buns and called it a day. I sleep on a satin pillowcase.

Side view :)

DAY 2

I always enjoy the second day of a roller set more than the first day. It just seems more lush and better set. The humidity level was at 75% today, but my hair behaved remarkably well - and I was outside for most of the day. I guess the Redken and anti-frizz hair spray are doing their job. Yay!

NIGHT 2

I wasn't going to do much tonight but detangle, paddle-brush and braid. Then I decided to "tend-n-mend" my ends just to show them some extra love. I did a little something different this time. Instead of hydrating my ends with rose water, as I typically do, I tried a body lotion! Why? I don't know - to experiment. The first ingredient in a body lotion is WATER, so no harm there. I then followed with my combo sealer and rolled each braid onto a mesh roller.

Psst. Have you checked out my "tend-and-mend" routine? It has brought life back to my ends (I know hair is technically dead, but curls feel ALIVE! Dont' you think?) :)

DAY 3

Humidity levels today started at around 66% and increased to 82% by the evening, but again, my hair delivered. I don't want to push my luck, but I might have found a good anti-humidity combo for my curls.

NIGHT 3

Tonight I detangled with a wide-tooth comb, smoothed out with a paddle brush, parted hair in two, did two-strand french braids, and twisted each braid into knots (see NIGHT 1 pic).

DAY 4

I didn't check humidity levels today, but I only had look out the window to know that the dew was high, as there was a fine mist in the air. So I turned to my handy-dandy running cap and tucked my hair buns inside to bike to school with lil' one. I didn't want to test my anti-humidity products too hard. You've seen the frizz I have to deal with when I step out unprotected.

I spent the morning and most of the afternoon wearing my braids as I didn't have any meetings or outdoor errands to run. We decided to have dinner out tonight so I unraveled the braids for pizza and root beer.

NIGHT 4
Detangle. Smooth. Two braids. Twist buns.

DAY 5

High dew in the morning = running cap to protect my curls from the high moisture levels in the air. Today I had a casual lunch meeting, so I unraveled the hair. It's getting bigger, yes?

NIGHT 5

Tonight I decided to add some hydration to my tresses before the braiding. I applied Palmer's Coconut Oil Formula to my hair, paddle-brushed, braided, and twisted into two buns.

DAY 6

Today I had a couple of business meetings which started in the morning, so after unraveling my hair and parting it to the side I sprayed on a second layer of anti-humidity spray - to be on the safe side (I used Pantene this time). Hmmm... It's hard to tell if the spray altered my hair's texture/the Palmer's hair milk last night/today's climate, but my hair curled a bit more today and lost some definition.

NIGHT 6
Tonight I wore my hair in a high twisted bun rather than two side braids. I applied some coconut oil, two-strand braided the ponytail and twisted the braid into a bun. Let's see what happens tomorrow.

DAY 7

This morning the humidity and dew point levels were high - 88/64, we were rushing out the door, and I couldn't locate my hat! To top it off, I unraveled the high bun I slept in, thinking that I'd tuck my hair in under the hat. Aaah! All I had time to do was loosely bun my hair for the bike commute to lil' one's school. When I got back home, I just edited the bun and let it be.

Later that evening, I had to attend a parent-teacher meeting at my lil' one's school to review the year's curriculum. I brushed my hair back into a ponytail and braided the tail loosely so it would fall on my neck (if you braid too tight it sticks out). I then applied a bit of castor oil & shea butter to my hair line to try to smooth down the curled baby hairs. I didn't want the ponytail to look too tight or severe so I was okay with the little fly-aways as long as they looked and felt moisturized (not dry and frizzy).

When we came back from Curriculum Night, I unraveled my hair. Doesn't look too bad!

NIGHT 7
I didn't put my hair to sleep tonight as I'm debating what to do the next day: (1) start over again with a new roller set (2) refresh my existing roller set (3) or just bun/french braid for a couple of days.

DAY 8
Today, the humidity and dew point levels are high - 93/66. It's cloudy outside, hence I'm in an "under-the-covers" mood. BUT, I have work to do and errands to run later today, so I cannot allow myself that luxury. I just decided to refresh my roller set. Will show results later.

I hope my little documentary helps you maintain your roller set. The point of this post was for me to document what I'm doing, what Mother Nature is doing, what's working, what's not working, etc. to continue to improve my technique.

THUS FAR
1. Keeping abreast of the HUMIDITY/DEW POINT levels has been helpful to decide how to step out into the day without provoking hair havoc. It takes two seconds. I just open The Weather Channel app on my iPhone home screen and there it is - my local weather, complete with humidity and dew point.

2. A roller setting PRODUCT is helpful. Depending on your desired results, it can be an anti-humidity medium, a heat-protectant, moisturizer, setting lotion, none, or all of the above. For my first roller set this season, I didn't apply any product and it lasted for TWO WEEKS (with a refresh)! This week, I applied several products and it has stood up fine. However, I will eliminate the second layer of hairspray from the equation to see what happens next time.

3. HATS are essential. I must build up my arsenal of hats! Also, keep a go-to hat somewhere you can get to it at a moment's notice. ;)

4. MOISTURIZING your ends every few days is a nice touch. It makes my ends feel stronger and supple.

5. ROLLER SETS ARE HERE TO STAY!

Black Turtlenecks & Buckles

2011-10-26T00:47:00.001-04:00

I guess you can say I'm on a roll here with these outfit shots. I don't know if it's the outfits or wanting to play with my camera.

Today I wore a black short-sleeved turtleneck which I accessorized with a black belt over the top, light blue skinny jeans, and black buckle shoes.

I enjoy the look of a chunky belt over a form-fitting top. This creates definition and can instantly change your look. It really was a tad on the boring side without the belt.

I don't wear too much jewelry, but when I wear black I like to wear chunky white-gold/platinum/silver rings. I usually will not wear a necklace when I wear a turtleneck, simply because I think it will weigh down my small frame (I guess I could if I had a long necklace). Also, I like the clean black look up there.

Ever since I can remember I've always owned at least one black turtleneck top. I just love them. If it's 68 degrees or below, I need some neck insulation to help keep me warm, whether it's a scarf or a turtleneck.

I'm all about the buckle shoes this week. When I put on my belt this morning, I immediately thought of pairing it with these shoes to play up the belt buckle.

A double-dose of buckles :)

Layered Neutrals, Short-Waisted Jackets, and Red Rouge

2011-10-24T22:21:00.000-04:00

Love, love, love the way the red rouge POPS

Layered neutral pieces can be fun (something else I can add to my personal style definition - I enjoy layering pieces, no matter the season). Here, I'm wearing a grey tank top with lace trim, a striped cream & taupe sleeveless cotton top with a tapered hem, and a beige corduroy short-waisted jacket. Short-waisted tops are perfect for my small frame. They don't engulf me, rather they accentuate my proportions, but I digress. I wore light blue fitted jeans and super comfy brown buckle shoes. This was the perfect opportunity to wear super-rich red lipstick.

So, I'm trying this new thing. Since I started working from home I said I'd do it, but then I just let life and work take over. I'm getting dressed even though I'm working from home. Why? I guess I miss having a "reason" to get dressed. I don't know how long this will last, but for now, I am having fun with it. It's breaking up my often monotonous morning routine and since I don't have a dress code, I can play with dressy, casual, and business pieces.

Perhaps you've noticed my pictures are blurry and grainy. It's something I'm embracing, for now, but seriously, I must get a real tripod and I must learn the trick to taking full-body self-portrait shots that are as clear and focused as my face shots.

I've been playing with my camera; finding natural sources of light throughout the house, playing with camera settings where there are no sources of light (above), creating a make-shift tripod out of an extra mic stand, etc.

These are a Few of my Favorite GLITTERRINGS

2011-10-23T09:13:00.001-04:00

Navy blue is my new black, and CHELSEY, a brilliant faux sapphire cocktail ring, is just what I need to complement my navy pieces. I like all the high contrast going on in this piece from colors to shapes and textures.

I like the zen appeal of the HUNTER ring; bringing together metal and wood. These shades would go really well with greens.

Festive. Brilliant. Elegant. The MAXINEs are just perfect for the upcoming holidays. These would look great on or under the Christmas tree ;)

When I see KAREN I think of billowy summer dresses, ocean breezes, and window shopping on Atlantic Ave in Delray Beach, after having a bellini.

DANA'S CANARY is like Spring on your finger. It's fresh and brilliant.

Although I admire jewelry, I tend to not drape my small frame in lots of it. However, I do like to accessorize my outfits with a little something BOLD and BRILLIANT. GLITTERRINGS deliver just the right touch of bling and class. Head over to GLITTERRINGS and pick out a few of your favorite rings. The site is full of stunning pieces.

Same Scarf, Same Boots, Different Look

2011-10-22T20:27:00.000-04:00

Yesterday my friend informed me that my style is similar to that of French women. I am cool with that. I've been considering what exactly my style is. I'm sort of a chameleon, as declared by another great friend of mine, so I'm not sure how to define my style.

Some things that I do know about my style: I enjoy strong solid colors. My style is clean and simple. I love red shoes. I also love white tops with blue jeans - it's kind of my staple/signature outfit, if you will. I enjoy black on black with a pop of color - usually silver, red, mustard yellow or turquoise. I adore the darkest-blue jeans I can get. I don't usually do trendy; not on purpose, just something I realized. I love scarves. I like jackets. Etc. My point being, I like what I like and I'm not always sure why. I do know that my own style definition will include the words "chameleon" and "French."

Anyhow, I just couldn't get enough of my scarf and STORM boots, so I brought them together again for a different look.

Today, I wore a brown mini sweater dress; paired with brown leggings and topped off with my STORM boots.

We went produce shopping at our local farmers market. I stocked up on my favorite grapes - concord grapes.

Then we went to the Fall Festival for some grilled corn-on-the-cob, carnival games and rides.

Lil' one ran into some school friends.

Hope you're having a lovely weekend.

Chartreuse, Watermelon and STORM Boots

2011-10-21T18:28:00.000-04:00

Finally, autumn temperatures have graced Florida. Finally, time for scarves, jackets and boots. Finally!

My roller sets are here to stay! Keeping my hair this way days at a time, appeals to my low-maintenance nature - saving time and energy. What's more, it is actually budget friendly as I'm saving money using less products (i.e. shampoo, conditioner, moisturizers, sealers, etc.).

Meet my latest color fixation - green (olive, chartreuse, sage, hunter).

I just adore this cream scarf with big blotchy chartreuse and watermelon-colored flowers. I appreciate the hand-painted look of the fabric.

When I stumbled upon these STORM boots on Chic Mommy, Cool Kid - they just called out to me!

Welcome fall! Glad you're here.

Glorious Sunset, Hair Texture & Outfits

2011-10-17T12:32:00.000-04:00

The week in iPhone pics...

Sunday night begins my hair week with a roller set. I'm trying to figure out if the dark circles are shadows from my curls or sleep deprivation; probably a little of both. For this roller set I didn't apply any product whatsoever. Note to self, I need something to combat the high humidity levels in Florida. You'll see why in a minute.

Lil' one's been working on some super scary (and gross) drawings for Halloween. Her dad started a little competition and the winner of the scariest picture is awarded $10.

Off to a meeting; equipped with mobi (my mobile office) and dressed quite comfortably - complete with red patent leather flats. Love that! Did I mention that I have a thing for red shoes.

Lil' one's hair texture and fragility are different from mine. She has lots of hair but it is quite fine and very delicate - especially her ends. After a little tend-and-mend and roller setting her ends, voila, soft and nourished ends.

Speaking of hair texture, my hair soaks up the slightest moisture in the air. After biking with little one to school, this is what I have to deal with. So I braid my hair into four sections, leaving about 3-4 inches at the bottom...

I apply a moisturizing and sealing combo to the ends. Looking better already :)

I roll up the ends in a mesh roller which I secure with a duckbill clip, and allow my ends to air dry.

This was an after-school snack for me and lil' one on Wednesday, I believe. I had a craving for scrambled eggs and homemade plantain chips, but not just any scrambled eggs. Will share the recipe soon.

Later on that evening, I got a call to step outside and look at the sky. It was quite glorious. There was a mess of beauty going on up there with sun rays, interesting clouds, different shades of pink, peach, orange, yellow, and the sun was huge! Breath taking!

Lil' one is so proud of her new fruit slicing skills that she took pics and sent them to her dad.

I've been doing lots of research lately on social media marketing as my newly prioritized strategy for marketing my freelance business. As a result, I decided to create a PowerPoint to share with others. I look forward to broadcasting it in the very near future.

I was gifted a pair of STORM boots (by Cougar) this week. Yay! They are so sweet. I cannot wait to wear them. Just waiting for it to get a little cooler here in Florida. I've already thought of about three outfits. I discovered these shoes at Chic Mommy, Cool Kid's blog. Thanks, Kim!

I love scarves.

These pictures are kind of quirky because my face was clearly not ready for them. However, I included them because I've realized that I have an outfit staple. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, white tops and blue jeans, with brown/red shoes. I think I must wear such an outfit at least once a week.

This is why I need a tripod.

I had a salmon-avocado roll for lunch (among other things) yesterday. It was delicious.

Last night, lil' one told me something (via text) that she thought would upset me, so I had to send her a pic of what my face looks like so she can assess if it's safe for her to come out of her hiding place. I wasn't upset. Actually, I was very proud of her for telling me even though she really didn't want to. Also, if I do look upset in this picture it's because I started to feel the beginnings of mild food poisoning :(

I went to bed fairly early and woke up okay. Thank goodness.

I have a feeling that this week is going to be quite challenging as my list of things to get done just continues to grow. This picture depicts this feeling with all the little dots. I have all these ideas all around me, and not enough of me to make them happen fast enough. But I will persevere. Wish me luck :)

Lots of goodies to come.

A Walk in the Rain

2011-10-08T02:37:00.000-04:00

My grandfather passed away when I was only 6 years old, yet I hold such warm memories of him. He enjoyed spending lots of time with his grandchildren. My cousin remembers sled rides down the hill of our neighborhood park after a good snowfall. My fondest memory is a walk in the rain. My cousin and I on either side of our grandfather, under a huge umbrella, walking down a tree-lined path along the park.

I don't think it happens every single time, but he usually pops into my mind whenever it rains.

My mother asked me to restore this portrait of papa. I cannot wait to frame it and unveil it to her. She loves to tell stories about him, so I look forward to what stories this newly restored photograph will bring up.

I love you papa. Thank you for the sweet memories. Today, lil' one and I got caught in the rain biking from school. I thought of you.

Everything Else Is Secondary

2011-10-05T23:11:00.000-04:00

Your time is limited,so don’t waste it livingsomeone else’s life...

Don’t be trapped by dogma -- which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.

Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.

They somehow already know what you truly want to become.

Everything else is secondary.

Steve Jobs
1955-2011

I Have a Thing for Red Shoes :)

2011-10-05T16:32:00.000-04:00

Hello there! I thought I'd sneak in for a bit to share a revelation I had today.

As I was putting my shoes back in the closet, I noticed that...

I have a thing for red shoes!

From my newest pair of delicious red heels...

to my first pair of reds (I'm talking 1994)...

to my beloved red sneakers, that have seen better days, but I just cannot let go of...

to my comfy red patent leather flats. I just can't get enough red shoes. Love 'em.

What is a Single Strand Knot & How to Prevent Them

2011-09-27T00:06:00.000-04:00

A single strand knot occurs when the end of your hair curls in on itself. Before being a full-time curly, I was not even familiar with this term, but I came to find that I had quite a number of them. I started roller setting my hair a few weeks ago, and I'm so glad I did because I didn't realize just how badly my ends were in need of some mending and care. Dry ends - I know how to handle that, but what about these tiny knots? I've thought about how these little knots are forming and here's my theory...

My theory is that these single strand knots are being created as I'm detangling my hair while wet. The stretchy nature of curls, the vulnerability of being wet, and the pull and tension from combing through the hair, make the hair spring back when the comb releases the hair; resulting in the hair curling back unto itself.

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If you've ever used curling ribbon to wrap a gift, you can visualize this theory better.

To curl a curling ribbon you hold the blade of a pair of scissors and the ribbon between your forefinger and thumb.

As you're pulling the ribbon and the scissor blade, you're creating tension in the ribbon.

Once you reach the end of the ribbon and release, the ribbon springs up and curls.

This is what I visualize happening to my curls as the comb runs through my wet hair.

So, let's move on to some solutions.

There are many factors that play into how much your hair curls in on itself when you are detangling, including how tangled your hair may be to begin with, the type of comb being used to detangle the wet curls, and the elasticity of your hair. I think that all of these things can play a significant role in how little or how many single strand knots are being produced. Ask yourself these questions?

Are you using the right combs for your curls?
I purchased two combs to work with. An ion silicone comb and a super wide seamless tooth comb with a narrow tail. I got the latter because of the incredibly wide spacing between the hefty teeth. This comb really makes its way through your hair. In addition, I loved that it had the functionality of a narrow-tail comb, making it very easy to part my hair into sections. I then follow with the ion silicone comb. This comb has fine polished and seamless teeth, but it is more of a dressing/finishing comb with the teeth being closer together. However, it's very smooth finish will help the comb to glide smoothly and with less effort through the hair, while distributing the conditioner from roots to ends.

As soon as my mom and I left the beauty supply store and got in the car, we tried our new combs and were surprised to feel the difference. These combs definitely make their way through my voluminous hair and it feels gentler - step in the right direction. Why?

The smoother the glide, the less pull and tension, the less likelihood of creating single strand knots.

Do you take extra steps to keep your hair detangled between washes?
Simple things like the way you sleep on your hair, or how you mantain your hair throughout the day, play into how tangled your hair may be by the time you have to wash it. Now that I'm roller setting for the winter, I either braid my hair into a very loosely french braid and tuck the ends under, or I put it up in a bun. I am also sleeping on a satin pillow case. During the day, when I'm home, I like to keep my hair off my face and neck so I'll keep it in the styles mentioned above just to leave my hair in peace and unravel it when I go out - if I have to. Why?

For one, the less stress you put on your hair, the stronger it will be when it will be when wet (it's most vulnerable state). The less tangles in your hair to begin with when wet, the lower the likelihood or amount of single strand knots being created while detangling.

Are you washing your hair too often?
Spreading out the time between washes has worked wonders for my hair. I'm not working my hair as much as I was with daily washing, I'm allowing my hair and scalp to retain and indulge in moisture for longer periods of time, and I'm doing the tend-and-mend technique which has made an incredible difference. Why?

Adequately moisturized hair and scalp makes for stronger, healthier hair. Moisturized hair, when wet, feels ultra smooth. Smoother hair makes it easy to glide a comb through and doesn't require as much detangling. Also, I'm not putting my hair in that vulnerable, springy state as much - minimizing the possibilities of creating more of those pesky single strand knots.

the right comb and the right technique will minimize SSK's

Do you condition your hair prior to washing it?
Last weekend before I washed my hair, I put a mayonnaise & olive oil treatment in my hair for at least six hours. What did I do in those six hours? Had breakfast, did a couple of loads of laundry, worked a little on my new marketing plan, started a teardrop birds arts and crafts project with lil' one, caught up with my mom, had lunch...

Giving your hair a boost of moisture and conditioning prior to washing makes a HUGE difference. I grew up on mayo treatments. I can't believe I didn't do this sooner. Why?

You know why. Smoother hair = less tangles = easier glide-through = less spring-back. Really!

Are you mindful of your shampoos?
I used to be all about the conditioner. I thought shampoo is just to cleanse, but the conditioner works the magic. It turns out that what you shampoo your hair with and how you shampoo your hair absolutely matter.

First, make sure you use a smoothing or moisturizing shampoo. Second, do NOT apply shampoo DIRECTLY on your ends. This has made a colossal difference minimizing single strand knots. Why?

Again, it's that smoother hair thing. Apply the shampoo directly on your scalp, massage the scalp and allow the suds to form. Use the suds to wash the remainder of your hair. This keeps the older, drier hair (mainly the ends) moisturized and smoother as you are not stripping it of all it's protective moisture. Keeping the ends smooth decreases the spring-back when the comb releases the hair. So the ends will not curl into themselves as much. I really am buying into this "spring-back" theory!

I have kind of been doing this for the past month or so, but I really mastered it last weekend. More deets to follow.

How do you detangle your curly hair?
The way you comb and detangle your hair matters. This is a habit I've been working on adopting. For the most part, I can run a comb through my wet hair without sectioning it. However, just because I can do it, doesn't mean I should do it. I'm disciplining myself comb my hair in sections at all times, but especially when detangling. The less hair your comb has to rake through, the less resistance, the less tension building up in your hair, and the less spring-back on your ends.

Any other tips for keeping those knotty strands in check?

D.I.Y. Make Fall Inspired Teardrop Birds

2011-09-20T09:30:00.000-04:00

This Sunday, lil' one, mom and I made more teardrop birds in honor of Fall. There is just something about Fall that makes me want to bake and be crafty. I also just love doing artful activities with others, but most especially my mom and lil' one. It makes us smile and act silly. It feels peaceful and lovely.

I thought I'd share how we make them. This all started last year when lil' one was home sick and while in bed, we drew, read, wrote and decided to sew something. The teardrop bird started from a quick picture she drew to show me what she wanted to sew. I just named it and facilitated.

Supplies & Tools

9 x 12 inch rectangles of felt in fall colors. I created six birds - blue-gray color, dark red, purple, medium brown, 2 mustard yellow (one for beaks), and sage green, dark brown (for legs)

Batting (to stuff the bird)

Yarn (brown; to stitch the body)

Regular thread (brown; to stitch the beak)

Scissors

Elmer's glue

Hot glue gun

Button/earrings (for eyes)

Sharpie/chalk (for tracing)

Darning needle (to stitch yarn with)

Regular sewing needle (to stitch the beaks)

Instructions
Prep :: Cut all the legs, wings, and beaks before you begin. You can also stitch the edges of the beaks with brown thread during prep. This will help to create an assembly line of steps. Here, I show one bird, but I actually created six birds at the same time.

1. Draw a teardrop shape about 5 1/4 in high and 4 1/4 in wide (the widest part). You can draw a cirlce with a 4 1/4 inch diameter. Then draw a triangle whose two sides touch each "side" of the circle. That should create a good teardrop for you.

2. Cut out the teardrop and place it over a piece of cardboard and trace the teardrop onto the surface. Cut it out and you now have a reusable template for future teardrop birds.

3. Place your template over a piece of felt that's been folded in half. Trace the outline very lightly, just to help guide you as you are cutting along the felt.

4. With a hint of glue, position the legs and wings on the inside of what is the back of the bird's body. You want just enough glue to keep the limbs in place while you sew.

5. Line up the front and back pieces of the bird. With a darning needle and yarn, begin to stitch along the edge, leaving about less than a 1/4 inch margin from the edge of the felt. Only sew about 3/4 of the body. You will need enough space to sew on the beak and to stuff the bird. Of course, you could sew on the beaks prior to stitching if you like.

6. When about 3/4 of the way to the end, stop to sew on the beak. Follow by stuffing the bird with as much or as little batting as you like. I made mine a bit on the plump side. Finish stitching up the bird. I left a bit of yarn slack at the ends and tied a knot, just for that added handmade touch.

7. You can hot glue or sew your button eyes. I could not find the rest of my heart-shaped buttons. I must have hidden them really well :) So I ventured out and looked for anything else that could be eyes for the other birds. Hence, old costume earring parts that I never let go of. Now they came in handy. I also used nail polish to paint a pair or two of eyes whose colors I wanted to change. Nail polish is great especially for small items. It sticks to the surface and it provides a glossy, textured effect.

I hope you'll try one with your lil' ones or if you just get those crafty cravings like I do. If you do try, come back and share some pics.

Red, White & Braids

2011-09-15T00:18:00.001-04:00

My oldest pair of shoes and still kicking. I wore these for my HS graduation in '94!

This week I've been hard at work on my marketing makeover, learning, revising, strategizing, inventorying, meeting with my mentor, etc. All the while working on client projects = many super late nights. However, I am just delirious with excitement over the new ideas, inspirations, and ventures that are on the way.

Actually, Poppies & Pencilshavings is included in my marketing makeover and that thrills me because I love my pretty space here. Hence, I've created a Twitter account @bouclesbelle just for my little blog. This way I can tweet freely and abundantly about hair, musings, yoga, food, fashion and writing without throwing off my marketing and web development followers or being passed over by potential followers.

I've been doing a bit of housekeeping i.e., adding illustrated categories (soon to be active), an About page, identifying my favorite topics, more photos to share, etc. Fun, fun :)

I wanted to share a quick hair update. I meant to wash my hair this past Tuesday (Day 7), but my hair still feels great and clean. Also, it seems to be getting softer each day I just leave it alone. So why mess with it, right? Since I've made it this far, I'll hold off on washing my hair until Saturday (11 Days) and have a hair/mani/pedi day with lil' one and my mom. So here is Day 8 Hair!

I am just loving these two-strand hairline braids. Easy, breezy, pretty - especially since it's still pretty humid down here in Florida.

And a simple side knot to finish it off. Lots of moisturizing and hair love is in store this weekend. I'll share the details and results.

I hope you're having a productive week.

Hair Play with Side Braids

2011-09-11T15:14:00.001-04:00

"Hair style is the final tip-off whether or not

a woman really knows herself."

~Hubert de Givenchy, Vogue, July 1985

I'm on Day 5 of my roller set. Today, I couldn't decide how to wear my hair. My bangs are much straighter than the rest of my hair because yesterday I brushed it all back and tied it in a low ponytail. I didn't feel like curling it (with a velcro roller), so I did a loose and unkempt two-strand hairline braid to get it out of the way and tied the rest of my hair into a low bun.

Then I changed my mind because I wanted it to look more fun (this is all to run errands). So, I loosened the bun and kept the hairline braid.

But, it's pretty hot outside under the sun so I didn't want all that hair against my neck and back. I chose to do a side braid.

It took me about three minutes to play with three different styles. It was so much fun I thought I'd share with a quick post.

On the Menu: Potato, Potahto, Tomato, Tomahto

2011-09-11T12:45:00.001-04:00

As we were buying produce at our local farmers' market yesterday, a craving suddenly seized me. This happens to me often. My taste buds & stomach decide that they want a certain something and then I become fixated on it for a while. My latest obsession - sliced tomatoes dressed in a simple vinaigrette and salted creamer potatoes.

What's more, this is a super quick meal or snack! I'm talking 5-7 minutes.

Ingredients:
a very firm beefsteak tomato
red creamer potatoes
kosher salt
black pepper
ground oregano
vinegar of your choice
extra virgin olive oil

Directions:
Rinse potatoes. Place in a ceramic bowl with about a 1/2 inch of water. Cover with a small plate or paper napkin. Cook in microwave under POTATO setting.

Rinse tomato. Slice into rounds. Add vinegar, salt, pepper and ground oregano.

Add cooked potatoes to the plate. Slice potatoes open. Drizzle EVOO over the tomatoes and potatoes. Season the potatoes with salt and pepper.

Enjoy!

By the way, if you have a little more time, you can always cook the potatoes in a pan. Add EVOO to the pan. Throw in the potatoes and season with salt and black pepper. Cook the potatoes until they are fork tender.

I actually don't use the microwave for much other than popcorn and potatoes. I just prefer to reheat things on the stove. I find the microwave changes the texture of foods. However, I do like to cook potatoes in the microwave. When I first made this snack for myself, I was in a hurry to get out the door for a meeting and I was starving. The microwave saved the day.

Bring Life Back to Dry Broken Ends

2011-09-10T11:28:00.001-04:00

Left untreated, dry hair leads to split ends, and split ends will continue to travel up the hair shaft. Dry broken hair leaves you with undesirable texture, dull hair, and deters healthy hair growth. The ends are the oldest part of your hair and should therefore be treated with respect and special attention.

Below are some tips and techniques to mend, smoothen, and bring life back to your ends; to prevent split ends and minimize single strand knots.

SHAMPOO WITH CARE
When shampooing the hair, do not scrunch it or bunch it up on top of your head. This only creates more tangles in your hair. Rather, apply shampoo directly to the scalp. Do not apply shampoo to the ends directly. Shampoo will dry your ends out which will cause them to weaken and split. The suds coming down from your roots will suffice. Make sure not to pull or tug on the hair because when wet, hair is at its most delicate state. Continue to massage the hair in a downward direction, gently running your fingers down the hair shaft (not through the hair). This way you are not creating knots in your hair.

Keep in mind that shampooing washes out the hair's protective oils. So if you must shampoo daily, use a brand that's labeled "for dry or damaged hair." Currently, I'm using an anti-frizz shampoo since I will be shampooing less during the fall and winter.

CONDITION & RINSE WITH COLD WATER
When hair is dry, the outer layers (cuticles) of the hair peel away from the shaft, resulting in split ends. A conditioner binds the cuticles back to the shaft all while lubricating the hair. Part the hair into 2-4 sections. This ensures that you are applying the conditioner evenly throughout the hair. Sections make it easier to detangle your hair, and again, it minimizes tangles and/or knots. Rinse your hair with COLD water. It seals the cuticle of your hair, promotes scalp circulation, and boosts shine.

DETANGLE WITH CARE
When detangling hair, only do it under running water and start at the ends, working your way up to the roots. The heaviness of the water elongates the hair shaft, give it a bit of slip, and aids in minimizing knots.

MOISTURIZE & SEAL
Apply a leave-in conditioner to your ends, if not your entire head of hair. I say this because I am currently roller setting my hair and I prefer not to apply too many products on my hair, but I will apply a leave-in to my ends for extra moisture.

Seal the ends with coconut oil/olive oil/avocado oil. These three oils are known to penetrate the hair shaft.

REHYDRATE YOUR ENDS BETWEEN WASHES
If you are roller setting like I am or if your curls will last a couple of days between washes, you will want to rehydrate your ends between washes and lock in the moisture. Once you create the mending butter below, this technique does not take long at all. This is what you will need:

Heritage Rosewater Glycerin (to hydrate ends) ~ Nubian Heritage Shea Butter with Honey & Blackseed Oil ~ Extra Virgin Coconut Oil ~ Cantu Shea Butter Leave In Conditioner

I found a great little recipe in the Long Hair Community forum. I'll call it a mending butter. The recipe is as follows ~ 2 parts shea butter, 1 part jojoba oil (or oil of choice) and 1.5 parts conditioner. Whip the mixture and place it in the freezer for 15-30 minutes to solidify.

Tend & Mend Technique
1. Section. Part your hair into two or more sections depending on your hair style. I parted my hair into three sections including my bangs, the front of my hair and the back of my hair. I tied the front and back of my hair into two ponytails.

2. Braid & Tie. Once tied, separate each ponytail into two equal sections to do a two strand braid. Tie the bottom of the braid, leaving about 2-2/12 inches of hair to work with. This method helps me focus on the ends and speeds up the process.

3. Hydrate. Spray a fine mist of water/ rosewater/ Infusium 23 to the ends only, to hydrate the hair. Distribute evenly with a fine tooth comb and begin smoothing between your fingers facilitating absorption.

4. Seal. Lock in that moisture with the mending butter. Apply to ends and continue to smoothen between your fingers.

5. Smoothen. Continue to gently smoothen the ends until about 90% absorbed. It's like a hair massage.

6. Roll & Tuck. Since I am roller setting for the winter, I finish by rolling the ends onto a velcro curler. I then secure the curler with a duck bill clip and allow the ends to finish air drying.

Frequency
As I mentioned in my Roller Setting 101 post, this past spring and summer I stuck to wash-and-go's (with a twist). Now that I am roller setting during the fall and winter months I am better able to assess the condition of my hair. I found my ends too dry and I found more single-strand knots than I care to live with. Ugh! Therefore, I am doing the Tend & Mend technique for three consecutive days between washes until I am satisfied with my ends. Thereafter, I will only do this every three days between washes.

WARM OIL RINSE
(once a week)
I came across this hair treatment and will give it a try during my next wash. I tweaked it a bit adding a little warmth to the oil. I think it helps to penetrate the hair shaft and it just feels good :)

1. Pour 2-4 tbsp of oil(s) of choice into a small ceramic bowl/ramekin.
2. Place the bowl in a saucepan. Fill the saucepan with about an inch of water.
3. Place the saucepan on the stove on medium-high heat.
4. When the water is about to boil, remove from heat immediately. You just want to warm the oil.
5. Shampoo hair in sections. Gently squeeze out excess water. Secure sections with butterfly clips.
6. Apply the warm oil to each section of hair.
7. Cover your hair with a plastic shower cap, and leave in for at least five minutes.
8. Rinse thoroughly with warm water.
9. Follow with a conditioner.
10. Rinse thoroughly with COLD water to seal your hair cuticles.

REGULAR TRIM
Lastly, trim split ends to avoid further damage to the hair. Split ends do not mend themselves. Three days after my first roller set, I decided to give myself a little trim to get rid of some of the undesirable ends (i.e. split ends and single strand knots).

She snuck in again :)

Between the trim and the Tend & Mend technique, my hair is feeling much better. See how nicely the ends curl? Yay!

By the way, I am not a professional hair cutter. I was very conservative with my scissors and trimming. However, I am due for a professional trim.

Roller Setting 101 for Soft Bouncy Waves

2011-09-07T18:18:00.000-04:00

Today I stopped by my local Sally Beauty Supply and walked out with an arsenal of velcro rollers and duckbill clips. Fall is just around the corner, so I am transitioning my hair regimen for the colder and drier months of autumn and winter. This past spring and summer I stuck to wash-and-go's (with a twist), so I have not applied any heat to my hair in months. Yay, me! Frankly, I just didn't have the time or desire to battle with humidity to protect heat-styled hair.

Soon enough the humidity and temperatures here in Florida will lower. So my theory is that less daily hair-washing will allow my scalp to produce its own natural oils and protect itself (and my hair) from the colder drier air. Shampooing washes out the hair's protective oils and I just don't like facing cold mornings with wet hair. So my styling method of choice for the season is roller setting, since my goal is to be as gentle as I can be with my ends. After assessing the condition of my hair (especially my ends), it can use a break from the daily washing.

Benefits of Roller Setting
Less direct heat on your locks. The less direct heat you apply to your hair, the less you alter the texture and elasticity of your hair, and the less damage to your ends.

Moisturized hair and scalp. Roller setting as opposed to the hair dryer or flat iron, allows your hair shaft and scalp to absorb some water and any conditioners you may have applied to your hair to do the roller set. Results - softer shinier hair.

Roller sets have staying power. Roller setting is one of the best ways to create styles that will hold much better and much longer than other methods. That means less touch ups during the lifespan of your style.

A hair-healthy choice. By not applying direct heat, you allow the hair to absorb some moisture while drying. Roller sets promote hair strength, smoother ends, and shine better than any other heat-styling tools.

From Magnetic Rollers to Velcro Rollers
I have always used magnetic rollers; smooth plastic cylinders with holes to allow air to pass through to dry the hair. However, I'm giving velcro rollers a try because magnetic rollers are anything but. They will not keep my curls in place as I try to roll my hair. I have to use clips to keep the roller and hair in place while I try to move on to the next section of hair. And, I find myself readjusting throughout the whole rolling process because the curlers shift or slip while I'm working on another one.

Although roller setting takes practice for perfection, setting my hair with velcro rollers saved me lots of time and energy! Velcro rollers keep your hair in place while rolling curly hair, and the roller stays put on your head without the use of a clip. However, I strategically secured my rollers with duckbill clips just to keep the roots stretched for smoother results. With that said, the most important thing for me when heat styling my hair is smooth ends, and velcro rollers delivered!

Products & Tools for Roller Setting
Herbal Essences Anti-Frizz Shampoo
Herbal Essences Anti-Frizz Conditioner
Infusium 23 Leave In Treatment in a spray bottle (to keep the ends wet; as well as to smoothen and strengthen the ends)
16-20 velcro rollers (for maximum grip and a speedier process). For my hair length, I used large and medium-sized rollers due to my hair being layered.
16-20 duckbill clips (to further stretch the roots of the hair)
Fine tooth comb with a narrow tail (to smoothen hair and ends; to section the hair)
Hair dryer bonnet (to speed up drying time)
Electric hot straightening comb (if necessary, to further smoothen the roots and hairline)

Steps & Tips
1. Shampoo thoroughly to start with a squeaky clean blank slate of hair (and scalp). I used Herbal Essences Anti-Frizz shampoo.

2. Follow with Herbal Essences Anti-Frizz conditioner, detangle with a wide-tooth comb, leave the conditioner on for about five minutes, and rinse it out completely.

3. Part hair into 9-10 sections and secure with butterfly clips, leaving the hair soaking wet. This time I opted not to add anything to my hair other than spraying a conditioning treatment on my ends before rolling.

4. Start at the bottom so you can see what you are doing as you work through your head of hair.

5. Part the hair sections precisely and a little less than the width of your roller for the best results.

6. Comb hair thoroughly to remove any tangles and distribute the leave-in treatment.

7. Roll the hair over or under fairly tightly without placing tension on the scalp. Remember you're not stretching your scalp, just the roots of your hair.

8. Secure the duckbill clip inside the roller so that it is against the scalp to keep the roller in place.

9. For best results, your hair must be completely dry before unrolling the curlers. I sat under the dryer for about an hour. I then allowed my hair (and myself) to cool down for about 10-15 minutes. Cooled hair holds its style better because you allow the cuticle to seal itself before manipulating the hair further.

10. Start unrolling from the front and work your way to the back to keep the unrolled hair from getting snagged by the remaining velcro rollers.

11. When removing velcro curlers be sure to UNROLL them carefully and in the opposite direction in which it was rolled into. DO NOT PULL or your hair will get tangled in the roller.

12. Once you've unrolled all of your hair, an optional step, is to use your hot straightening comb to further smoothen the hairline and roots.

13. I don't put anything in my hair during the first 24 hours, unless I'm going out that day/night, in order to let my scalp produce its own oils. The next day I do spray in a bit of anti-humidity spray. I also hydrate my ends with rose water/leave-in conditioner and seal the ends with a combo of shea butter & extra virgin coconut oil. I smoothen my ends between my fingers until almost dry then roll with a velcro roller and allow the ends to finish drying. Surprisingly this doesn't take long at all.

Yes, lil' one snuck into my pic :)

Results
Soft and bouncy waves with super smooth ends!

If you want straighter results without using a flat iron, try a doobie (hair wrap). Here's a great tutorial on wrapping your hair in a doobie.

You can keep your hair styled this way up to a week, if not longer. Of course, it all depends on your workout routine, high temperatures, etc. I look forward to perfecting my roller setting.

♥☺ Carmen
P.S. I did assess the condition of my hair and although I don't seem to have many split ends, my ends are dry. So, I think I started this new regimen just in time to give my ends a break from daily washing and give them some TLC.

Meditation on Joy

2011-09-05T20:43:00.000-04:00

Even if life gave you at one time everything you wanted -- wealth, power, friends -- after a while you would again become dissatisfied and need something more.

But there is one thing that can never become stale for you -- joy itself.

Happiness that is delightfully varied, though its essence is changeless, is the inner experience that everyone is seeking. Lasting, ever-new joy is God. Finding this Joy within, you will find it in everything without. In God you will tap the Reservoir of perennial, unending bliss.

~ Paramahansa Yogananda

♥☺ Carmen

Wishes for Baby

2011-08-29T14:28:00.000-04:00

I've been on a purging mission in the past couple of weekends - from my closet to my office. I came across a project that I never finished - my lil' one's first year scrapbook. So, I've decided to digitize this project. I've been typing up her firsts, her favorites and little notes we wrote during her first year. I found a page titled

"Wishes for Baby"

As a baby I hope you are comforted by our love and protected by our embraces. I hope you grow healthily, develop strongly, and are loved fulfillingly.

As a child I hope your childhood is full of warm and fuzzies, adventures and wonders, and countless carefree days. I hope your innocence reigns, that your days are sunny, your nights cozy, and that every discovery is thrilling.

As a young adult I hope you possess a strong sense of values and self. I hope your horizons continue to be limitless, your mind hungry, and that you will look to us for comfort, reassurance, affection and guidance.

As an adult I hope we will be great friends. I hope you will pursue your dreams with unrelenting persistence. I hope you will create loving lasting relationships. I hope you will contribute to the betterment of our world. I hope you will love your life and be true.

We cannot wait to meet you.

♥☺ Carmen

Hair Growth & Conditioning Treatment

2011-08-14T13:15:00.002-04:00

This is a great treatment for giving your ends some strength and maintaining the health of the delicate hairline strands. The main stars in this hair treatment are the alliums - garlic and onion. When their tissues are ruptured (biting, slicing, dicing, grating, etc.), they release an abundance of healthful chemicals, nutrients and minerals. What's more, their active ingredients are able to pass right through the skin and into the bloodstream!

My recipe includes GARLIC which possesses many powerful minerals and nutrients beneficial to hair; ONION because in addition to being in the allium family, the onion also releases a lot of juice which helps to liquify the garlic, hence facilitating the application to the hair; ALOE VERA contains many hair growth enzymes, conditions the hair shaft and boosts shine; and EXTRA VIRGIN OLIVE OIL to massage and further condition the scalp and hair.

Here are some of the hair loving minerals and nutrients found in the allium family:

Sulfur
Sulfur is a structural part of many proteins, including keratin, the protein hair is made of. Sulfur is also beneficial for skin, nails and nerves. It can be used therapeutically to fight psoriasis and eczema, both conditions that can detract from hair health.

Selenium
The selenium in garlic works with Vit E to improve hair health. Selenium boosts the body's ability to utilize vitamin E to destroy free radicals that damage cell membranes. If your body cannot effectively use Vit E or if you significantly lack Vit E, often it shows in hair loss, hair thinning, and dry dull hair. Selenium also improves skin elasticity.

Vit C and Vit B
Garlic is a good source of vitamins C, B-6 and B-1 (thiamine), which are important for hair health including luster, growth, and hair strength. Vitamin C protects the hair from breakage and boost collagen production. Thiamine aids in scalp circulation as well as carbohydrate metabolism.

Minerals
Minerals in garlic also aid hair health. Calcium provides a structural component in hair. Copper helps hair grow and also prevents defective hair growth. Iron aids in hair growth as well as hair maintenance. Manganese helps the body utilize other nutrients that are important to hair health.

TOOLS

Blender

Small-medium saucepan

Small ceramic bowl/ramekin

Wide tooth comb

Four (4) butterfly clips

INGREDIENTS

4 cloves of garlic

1/2 onion

2 tbsp aloe vera gel

2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil

INGREDIENTS
Mix chopped garlic, onion and aloe vera gel in a blender. Pour mixture into a bowl.

Part hair into four sections and secure with butterfly clips. Start at the scalp and roots until saturated. Follow along the hair shaft and finish with the ends. Cover with a shower cap for an hour minimum.

After an hour+ pour 2 tbsp of extra virgin olive oil into a small ceramic bowl/ramekin. Place the bowl in a saucepan. Fill the saucepan with about an inch of water. Place on stove on medium-high heat until water boils. Remove from heat.

Remove shower cap and butterfly clips. Massage the scalp and roots with the warm extra virgin olive oil to promote circulation and further condition the hair. Follow along the hair shaft and ends. Pile the hair on top of your head and cover with a shower cap for an hour minimum.

After an hour+, remove shower cap and rinse the hair under warm water to wash away most of the hair treatment. Follow with shampoo and conditioner. Leave conditioner in the hair for 15 minutes minimum. Comb hair with a wide-tooth comb to distribute conditioner and detangle hair. Rinse conditioner out completely and comb your hair under running water with a finer tooth comb to help wash away any remaining garlic pieces - this is the real deal after all.

Style as usual.

FREQUENCY
Currently, I am doing this treatment at least twice a week. After about three weeks, I will transition to once a week and then once a month, as I have to rotate my yummy hair treatments.

RESULTS
You will feel the difference as you are rinsing out the treatment. The hair feels unbelievably soft. I've been doing this treatment for a couple of weeks now, and I think my hairline is fuller and the new growth is super soft.

♥☺ Carmen

Not Easily Chewed - Making Tough Decisions

2011-08-11T16:03:00.001-04:00

When faced with tough decisions that can impact not only ourselves but also those we love dearly, it can be a quite daunting experience. I have many decisions to make, many paths to commit to, many binds to loosen, much weight to be rid of, fears to face, passions to pursue – and frankly, I am overwhelmed. As a parent, a partner, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a friend -- it’s not just about me. How it would be to just do and just be according to my simplest of whims and intuitions? Unfortunately, I am much more complex than that and many times I find myself saying to myself, “Just do it. Do something. Do.”

I have no doubt in my mind that the universe places each of us in each other’s paths when we need each other the most. The people I have met and those I have reconnected with in that last six months - all of us going through great changes, all of us trying to take great leaps, all of us pursuing happiness; some of us bound to responsibilities, fragilities, love, and fears.

This is a text I wrote to a friend. This is for us…

Break it down into pieces and take one bite at a time. No matter what we decide, I think with loving intention and the will to do good and be good for ourselves and our children, we will all get through this much better than we fear. We just have to work towards being kind and honest in our decisions, and face the music. But what we must stop is this martyrdom and sacrifice that only kills our spirit slowly until we no longer recognize ourselves enough to be, or to defend who we are.

One bite at a time...

I Will Not Have My Child to Raise Over Again

2011-07-28T15:26:00.001-04:00

You are worried about seeing [her] spend [her] early years in doing nothing. What! Is it nothing to be happy? Nothing to skip, play, and run around all day long?
Never in [her] life will [she] be so busy again.

~Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Emile, 1762

If I had my child to raise all over again,

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

~Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"

Just a little reminder to myself that I cannot afford too many "maybe later's," or "not now's." I love my work, but I love my child more. I need money in the bank, but money cannot ensure my child's happiness the way my love can.

However, I have loads of hugs and kisses to share. I can make time for just me and her. I will make time for just me and her.

I played hopskotch with little one the other day - she was ecstatic and I was shocked. Why don't I do this more? I still had deadlines. I was still behind. Things were looming over my head. Yet, here I was playing hopskotch with lil' one and the world did not come to an end. As a matter of fact, the play got my brain working in ways that staring at a blank Illustrator canvas will never do. So why do I keep forgetting to go out and play?

Yes, this is an oldie post, but it's also a newbie because it ties into an initiative I'm a part of - October is Attachment Parenting Month. Parents, parenting professionals, and those who know that families are the foundation for a peaceful, compassionate and healthy global community are invited and encouraged to become and/or promote “Families at Play” during the fourth annual Attachment Parenting Month.

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog carnival, hosted by Attachment Parenting International.

Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International.

♥☺ Carmen

P.S. I hurt my neck playing hopskotch. How pathetic!

On the Menu: Banana Nut French Toast

2011-07-18T12:54:00.002-04:00

I love discovering hidden culinary treasures, and I'm so glad many of my friends share in this little joy. Yanny's in Clearwater, FL is the latest for a great breakfast or brunch. By the time we got there, they were out of their popular biscuits with sausage gravy, so I got a biscuit and sausage sandwich with a side of sliced tomatoes - very good! However, the show stopper was the Banana Nut French Toast.

Good food. Good company.

The restaurant is located in a very unassuming strip mall, but don't be fooled, the menu is phenomenal and the staff is inviting and super friendly. We were greeted warmly, sang along Billy Ocean's Suddenly which was playing in the background, enjoyed great coffee while we waited for our breakfast, devoured our scrumptious food, and even had some good conversation with the staff.

Thanks Yanny's! Now off to the beach!

♥☺ Carmen

Music Box: Suddenly

2011-07-18T12:29:00.000-04:00

This past weekend a dear friend and I were enjoying a lovely brunch at a hidden treasure, Yanny's Kitchen in Clearwater. The restaurant played an interesting mix of songs in the background. As we were having some coffee and waiting for our breakfast, Suddenly by Billy Ocean started to play. To the apparently pleasant amusement of our dining neighbors, RdP and I sang along. Good times! Thought I'd put this one in the music box. I enjoyed this live rendition of Suddenly.

Suddenly
I used to think that love was just a fairy tale
Until that first hello.
Until that first smile.
But if I had to do it all again
I wouldn't change a thing
'Cause this love is everlasting.

Suddenly
Life has new meaning to me.
There's beauty up above and things we never take notice of.
You wake up and suddenly you're in love.

Girl you're everything a man could want and more.
One thousand words are not enough to say what I feel inside.
Holding hands as we walk along the shore.
Never felt like this before.
Now you're all I'm living for.

Suddenly
Life has new meaning to me.
There's beauty up above and things we never take notice of.
You wake up and suddenly you're in love.

Each day I pray this love affair would last forever.

Suddenly
Life has new meaning to me.
There's beauty up above and things we never take notice of.
You wake up and suddenly you're in love.

There's beauty up above and things we never take notice of.
You wake up and suddenly you're in love.

♥☺ Carmen

P.S. RdP had amazing banana nut french toast, and I had the biscuits and sausage with a side of sliced tomatoes. Yummy!

Rinse Thoroughly - Skin Update

2011-07-06T12:28:00.002-04:00

So after months and months of trying to figure out what my skin is trying to tell me and being frustrated with a sudden onset of acne, I discovered the culprit - my hair care regimen.

Did I mention this in my last post about my skin issues? I just looked and I didn't include co-washing as one of the new things I started doing as part of my hair care regimen. If you're not familiar with the term co-washing, it is an abbreviated term for "conditioner washing" - a method of retaining moisture in the hair by cleansing the hair with a conditioner instead of a traditional shampoo. I started to incorporate this method into my hair care regimen because I wash my hair every day and wanted a gentler option for washing my hair without stripping away all the good stuff.

Let me clarify, not only was I co-washing, I would then apply a bit of the same conditioner and leave it in my hair. My skin was not happy with this routine.

HAIR CONDITIONERS 101
Hair conditioner alters the texture and appearance of our hair. It is a thicker substance which coats the cuticle of the hair itself. Therefore, when using a hair conditioner as a gentle wash, you must be mindful that although you may be "washing" your hair, you are also leaving a coat of product on your hair. Furthermore, you are building layers of product each day you do this, so you must pay attention to how your hair, scalp and skin react, in order to determine how often you should shampoo your hair between co-washes to keep all three happy.

Rinse-Out Conditioners
A rinse-out conditioner can have a high content of surfactants which bind to the hair structure and "glue" the hair surface scales together. Their molecules (saturated fatty acids) have a tendency to crystallize easily, giving the conditioner higher viscosity, and they tend to form thicker layers on the hair surface. They can be left on the hair for a longer time for deeper conditioning but should be rinsed out.

Leave-In Conditioners
Leave-in conditioners are thinner and have different surfactants which add only a little material to the hair. They are based on unsaturated chains makes them less prone to crystallization, thereby making a lighter, less viscous mixture and a significantly thinner layer on the hair.

A good analogy when comparing the difference between leave-in and pack conditioners is that it is similar to the difference between fats and oils.

For months I've been attributing my skin problems to everything but something topical. It didn't occur to me until I was telling a friend my Pond's story...

MY POND'S STORY
So when I was about 7 years old, I was playing in the bathroom sink and pretending I was giving myself a facial as I saw my mother do every weekend. Well, this time I took it a step further and decided to dip my finger in my mother's Pond's cream. I literally only had a less than a dime-sized amount of the cream on my finger. I proceeded to apply the cream to my face and finished my facial.

The next morning I woke up to my mother sitting beside me with tears running down his face. I asked him what's wrong and all he could say is, "My beautiful girl. My beautiful girl." I could hear my mother on the phone, but couldn't make out what she was saying. Later I learned she was talking with my doctor. Eventually my father brought over a mirror and let me see my face. All I remember is not recognizing the person looking back at me. My face was swollen, and I had what appeared to be goosebumps all over my body, and I looked like a ninety-year-old version of myself. It was kind of surreal.

Anyhow, we finally made it to the doctor. After a series of questions, we finally discovered, or I finally confessed that I used some of my mother's face cream. The doctor gave me a shot (not happy) and pescribed a body lotion. Within a week I was back to normal - lesson learned. LIGHTBULB MOMENT! What if it's something topical that is irritating my skin?

I also remember reading some discussions on NaturallyCurly.com where some ladies were complaining about itchy scalps, etc. from co-washing. Duh! If my entire body reacted to less than dime-sized amount of Pond's cream, it's quite possible my body is now reacting to something topical.

I immediately went out to buy an actual leave-in conditioner. I washed my hair with a clarifying shampoo. I followed with my conditioner and rinsed it out COMPLETELY. I then finished with an Apple Cider Vinegar rinse.

MY ALTERED REGIMEN
For the next week I shampooed with a gentle daily-use shampoo, applied and rinsed out my conditioner. After all products are rinsed from my hair I then wash my face and body. I then applied a LEAVE-IN conditioner and sealed with coconut oil. I also use mousse or a sculpting gel as necessary.

Within a week, break-outs gone - mostly! I still have to work on unclogging my pores, but the break-outs are minimal. JOY! JOY! JOY!

Will write more soon. In addition to unclogging my pores I am also working on the hyper-pigmented scarring, but it's actually resolving quickly. Yay!

Music Box: Paloma Negra

2011-06-23T13:24:00.001-04:00

Paloma Negra
Ya me canso de llorar y no amanece
Ya no sé si maldecirte o por ti rezar
Tengo miedo de buscarte y de encontrarte
Donde me aseguran mis amigos que te vas
Hay momentos en que quisiera mejor rajarme
Arrancarme ya los clavos de mi penar
Pero mis ojos se mueren sin mirar tus ojos
Y mi cariño con la aurora te vuelve a esperar

Y agaraste por tu cuenta la parranda
¿Paloma negra, paloma negra dónde, dónde andarás?
Ya no jueges con mi honra parrandera
Si tus caricias han de ser mías, de nadie más
Y aunque te ame con locura ya no vuelvas
Paloma negra eres la reja de un penar
Quiero ser libre vivir mi vida con quien yo quiera
Díos dame fuerza que estoy muriendo
por irlo a buscar

Y agarraste por tu cuenta la parranda

Black Dove
So tired of crying and the sun will not rise
Don't know whether to curse you or to pray for you
Afraid to look for you and to find you
Where my friends have assured me you have gone
There are moments I want to break free
And rip out the nails of my suffering
But my eyes will die if they cannot look into yours
And my love waits for you with the dawn once again

And you chose to join in on the night's revelry
Black dove, black dove where can you be?
Stop playing with my honour
Your caresses must be mine, and no one else's
And though I love you madly, don't come back
Black dove, you're the bars on this cage I am in
I want to be free and live my life with whom I choose
Lord, give me strength for I'm dying
to go find her

And you chose to join in on the night's revelry

I'm Going to My Happy Place Now

2011-06-16T11:00:00.006-04:00

This blog has become a very special part of my life. It is my happy place. My pair of rose colored glasses. I realized this a couple of weeks ago when I was in a frazzled and overwhelmed state of mind. So what did I do? I ran to my blog. I sketched something and that turned into an illustration that I wanted to "hang up" in my happy place - Poppies & Pencilshavings. No matter how foul my mood, when I think of posting on this blog, I come up with nothing but happy, comforting, healthy, pretty, fun thoughts. This is where I get to inventory all the wonderful things around me and inside me. It really does enhance my mood, because once I post something I cannot help but feel a bit better.

One day happiness has to stop being a destination. One day you must simply CHOOSE to be happy. To create it. Pretend it, even, until you believe in it.

I started jotting down my arsenal of happy places to go to when I'm not feeling my best or when I consciously do want to feel my best.

My Current Go-To Happy Places

Lil' One's Eyes

About a month ago we were driving home from school when she asked me "Mommy, what's so beautiful about my eyes?" She gets that a lot, and for good reason. She's got these huge almond shaped eyes. When God created her he gave her a permanent coat of lash extending and volumizing mascara, with a slight curl at the ends. Her eyes are a rich brown with specks of amber and cheer. She has extraordinarily well-defined brows that I'd just die for. Lil' one's are breathtaking and I just love to fall into those eyes.

My Mother's Heart

What can I say? My mother's heart is the most secure, comforting, loving, warm, cozy place I can go to when nothing else will do. My mother's love is undeniable and so evident in every single word she says, every move she makes, and every gesture she extends my way.

In His Arms

Laughing, conversing, sharing, loving, exploring, admiring, enjoying, dreaming... in his arms.

At Home

I am a self-proclaimed home-body. I had the bitter-sweet pleasure of living by myself for a few years and I must admit it was lovely. From the decor, to the flowers, to the food in my pantry - every single thing was a reflection of what makes me and lil' one happy and it was great.

The Simple Pleasure of Riding a Bike

A couple of weeks ago I started riding a 1965 Schwinn cruiser and it's been wonderful. I forgot about the nice breeze, and the different perspective it gives the neighborhood; so picturesque. Not to mention, it's a great alternative to my power walks.

Escaping Into a Good Book

This just can't be beat. I just love reading. One of my loveliest memories is reading a book in one day when I was about 10 or 11. I ate an entire bag of apples and couldn't take my eyes off the pages. I just love that feeling.

My Sketchbooks

It's a new thing for me - sketching, but how I love it. I literally catch myself smiling I get so giddy. It allows me to dive into a colorful, dreamy, and sweet world.

Yoga

Do I really have to say why Yoga is a happy place?

Taking inventory of what makes you giddy, what gets you excited, what makes you exhale, is a good tool to keep handy.

When you are sad, mad, or just feeling funky, do you actively do something to turn that frown upside down?

♥☺ Carmen

I Love Red Shoes, Part II

2011-06-15T21:31:00.000-04:00

I Love Red Shoes

2011-06-15T00:47:00.001-04:00

That's all folks!

♥☺ Carmen

What is my Skin Trying to Tell Me?

2011-06-13T20:06:00.003-04:00

"Your skin is the fingerprint of what is going on inside your body,
and all skin conditions, from psoriasis to acne to aging, are the manifestations of
your body's internal needs, including its nutritional needs."

Dr. Georgiana Donadio, Founder of the National Institute of Whole Health

Since last summer of 2010, my skin has been going through some unnerving changes. Other than the occasional blemish throughout my teen years, acne has not been a concern for me. Now, in my thirties, my skin is reacting to something and I'm desperately trying to figure it out what it could be, because it's written all over my face and I don't like it. So here's what's been going on...

Last summer I noticed I was getting itchy bumps on my upper back, décolletage, and sometimes on my scalp. I attributed this to bug bites, perhaps too much shampooing, or my leave-in conditioner which wasn't really a leave-in. What I failed to notice at first, is that these bumps would come and go from one or two days to the next. New things I was doing/using: coconut oil, flaxseeds, new skin care line, oil cleansing method (castor oil & olive oil).

Fall came along and did away with virtually all the moisture in the air, so now I had a new monster to contend with and I was as dry as sandpaper. I consumed unbelievable amounts of water and green tea, and I invested in a couple of humidifiers. Eventually, that phase was overcome and it seemed that the worst of it had passed. New things I was doing/using: eating a daily beautifying breakfast which included wheat germ, flaxseed & walnuts; moved into new home with hard water; Eco Styler gel.

Then one day a cluster of small bumps appeared on my cheeks. Aaaaah!!!

At first I figured that during the dry phase I may have clogged my pores because I was so deprived of hydration and was sealing my skin with coconut oil. So I stopped the coconut oil and all skin care products and stuck to water-based products for my skin. That helped for a while. I also stopped adding wheat germ and flaxseed to my beautifying breakfast. But the breakouts continued and became worse. I eliminated more things. I stopped using coconut oil and new skin care line products, and I stopped eating wheat germ and flaxseed. Nothing - still breaking out.

I did a bit of research on acne patterns because my break outs are only happening on my cheeks and I thought that was a curious. It turns out that breakouts in this area are associated with digestive issues. So, it's something I'm consuming. The biggest change in my food intake had been the wheat germ and eating pizza and pasta more frequently - pizza on Fridays and pasta weekly, because the fam decided that my spaghetti was awesome and must be had every week. Theory, my body is developing an intolerance for wheat/gluten that was pushed to the edge by the wheat germ/pasta/pizza craze.

So I stopped eating foods with wheat, barley and rye - sometimes. This was not an easy transition to make. One, because I had moments of weakness ~ I do LOVE pizza. Two, because I didn't realize that SO many foods include wheat. Just when I thought I was doing well, I'd realize that something I ate might have included flour for binding, or breading, or thickening - I'm talking soups, sauces, patties, and fries. At first I wouldn't think to ask, but then I realized that wheat is used not only to bind, bread and thicken, but as a filler as well. I have beer from time to time - oops - WHEAT! The point being that I had lots of up and down moments with my breakouts.

Lately, another thought has occurred to me. What if my favorite gel styler, Eco Styler, which contains Hydrolyzed Wheat Protein, is also contributing to the breakouts? Could that also be irritating me? And why is it that when I wake up in the morning I have no inflammation, the bumps are gone only to come back up after a couple of hours after I wake up? So many questions.

I could go on and on about this. Where am I now? For the past two weeks I've been as cautious as I can possibly be about gluten consumption. The breakouts "seem" to be calming down - getting smaller, less itchiness, less inflammation. I don't know how long it will take for my body to cleanse itself of whatever has been irritating it. I'm giving it about 30-35 days.

During this time I'm going to the bare essentials for my face.

My Daily Skin Care Regimen
Cleanse ~
Dr. Wood's Pure Black Soap
Hydrate ~
George's 100% Fractionally Distilled Aloe Vera
Moisturize & Protect ~
Extra Virgin Coconut Oil

I will then gradually include a simple hyperpigmentation treatment to rid myself of my chocolate chip cookie cheeks - a raw honey & lemon mask every couple of days.

As you can see from my Plan of Attack, I'm going to do a lot of internal cleansing and consuming lots of beauty boosting foods & vitamins.

My Daily Cleansing Potion
1 tbsp of Plantation Organic Unsulphured Blackstrap Molasses
Potassium: 353 mg (12%)
Vitamin B 10%
Calcium 20%
Iron 20%
Magnesium 8%

4 tbsp of Georges 100% Fractionally Distilled Aloe Vera
Significant source of:
Protein, Calcium, Magnesium, Zinc, Vitamins A, B12 and E, Essential fatty acids
Naturally rich in:
Vitamin C, Amino acids, Enzymes, Germanium

Wish me luck! Do you think I'm going in the right direction with this Plan of Attack? Have you overcome skin issues from the inside out?

And Then One Day I Just Chose to be Happy

2011-06-07T03:29:00.001-04:00

For some of us, perhaps many of us, it seems that life will always be a little more intense than the "norm". A bit heavier. A struggle.

Blue days will come upon us, unforeseen, and attempt to drown us in sorrow. Hardship will always play a role in all our endeavors. What seems too good to be true, will eventually be. Pain will haunt us. Love will break us.

For some of us, getting out of bed and facing the world will require courage and super-human strength on a daily basis. Letting love in, will have to be a conscious decision. And, letting go of pain may have to happen despite us. For some of us, nothing will be easy. Nothing will be simple. For some of us, it's a boxing match life where every turn you make and every step you take, you find someone or something trying to knock you down or put you out for good.

And yet some of us discover that most of our challengers have been our own fears and negativity. Our inner voices creating dysfunction where it has no place. Muddying the waters because that's all we know and expect. Putting up walls. Closing doors. Rejecting love and running towards deception. Denying possibilities and embracing the unachievable - simply to justify that unwillingness.

And yet some of us, hopefully many of us, will make magic out of anguish. We'll discover beauty in the monsters. We'll turn cries into music. We'll pen poetry out of pain. We'll learn to dance with the storms.

We'll find the way - our way.

On the Menu: Mireya's Pan Fried Whole Croaker Fish

2011-06-06T11:56:00.001-04:00

The last time we had my mom's pan fried whole fish was in NY - eight years ago! This past weekend we went to our local fish market, Lombardi's, and stocked up on fish for the week. We bought red snapper, salmon, swordfish, tilapia, and then it occurred to us to do a fish fry.

It was absolutely delicious. I was transported back to weekends at our home in Brooklyn. And it was even better because we were all "high" on this meal. Lil' one couldn't stop saying how delicious grandma's fish was and how she could eat ten more. And I couldn't stop smiling and thanking the Universe for my mom. :)

I'm working on a central location for downloadable docs, but in the meantime, if you'd like a printable version of this recipe, please shoot me an email and I'll send it right over.

Ode to the Coconut: The Tree of a Thousand Uses

2011-06-05T18:22:00.001-04:00

THE TREE OF A THOUSAND USES
Found across much of the tropics, the coconut is known for its great versatility from decoration to its many culinary and non-culinary uses - virtually every part of the coconut palm can be used by humans in some manner. In Sanskrit coconut is call kalpa vriksha "The tree which provides all the necessities of life." In the Malay language, the coconut is referred to as pokok seribu guna "The tree of a thousand uses." In the Philippines, the coconut is commonly called the "Tree of Life".

The coconut provides a nutritious source of meat, juice, milk, and oil that has fed and nourished populations around the world for generations. Coconut is highly nutritious and rich in fiber, vitamins, and minerals. On many islands coconut is a staple in the diet and provides the majority of the food eaten.

BENEFITS OF THE COCONUT FROM HEAD TO TOE

Hair
~ Coconut oil is one of three oils that are actually absorbed by the hair shaft.
~ It acts as a conditioner.
~ Softens and smoothes the hair shaft almost instantly.
~ Provides a natural non-greasy sheen.
~ Acts a sealant after applying a moisturizer.
~ Controls dandruff and conditions the scalp.

Skin
~ Supports tissue healing and repair.
~ Supports the natural chemical balance of the skin.
~ Reduces inflammation.
~ Reduces symptoms associated the psoriasis, eczema, and dermatitis.
~ When applied topically helps to form a chemical barrier on the skin to ward of infection.
~ Prevents wrinkles, sagging skin, and age spots.
~ Provides protection from damaging effects of ultraviolet radiation from the sun.
~ Softens skin and helps relieve dryness and flaking.

Full of Anties
Anti-viral: Kills viruses that cause influenza, herpes, measles, hepatitis C, SARS, AIDS, and other illnesses.
Anti-bacterial: Kills bacteria that cause ulcers, throat infections, urinary tract infections, gum disease and cavities, pneumonia, and gonorrhea, and other diseases.
Anti-fungal: Kills fungi and yeasts that cause candidiasis, ringworm, athlete's foot, thrush, diaper rash, and other infections.
Expels or kills tapeworms, lice, giardia, and other parasites.

Mega Booster
~ Boosts energy and endurance, enhancing physical and athletic performance.
~ Improves digestion, absorption of nutrients including vitamins, minerals, and amino acids, and improves bowel function.
~ Improves insulin secretion and utilization of blood glucose.
~ Supports and aids immune system function.
~ Improves cholesterol ratio, reducing risk of heart disease.
~ Improves utilization of essential fatty acids and protects them from oxidation.
~ Supports thyroid function.
~ Promotes loss of excess weight by increasing metabolic rate.
~ Improves calcium and magnesium absorption and supports the development of strong bones and teeth.

Relieves & Reduces
~ Relieves stress on pancreas and enzyme systems of the body.
~ Relieves symptoms and reduces health risks associated with diabetes.
~ Relieves symptoms associated with gallbladder disease, Crohn's disease, ulcerative colitis, and stomach ulcers.
~ Relieves pain and irritation caused by hemorrhoids.
~ Relieves symptoms associated with chronic fatigue syndrome.
~ Relieves symptoms associated with benign prostatic hyperplasia (prostate enlargement).
~ Reduces epileptic seizures.
~ Reduces inflammation.
~ Reduces symptoms associated with pancreatitis.
~ Reduces problems associated with malabsorption syndrome and cystic fibrosis.

Protects & Prevents
~ Helps protect against osteoporosis.
~ Helps protect the body from breast, colon, and other cancers.
~ Protects arteries from injury that causes atherosclerosis; protecting against heart disease.
~ Helps prevent periodontal disease and tooth decay.
~ Functions as a protective antioxidant.
~ Helps to protect the body from harmful free radicals that promote premature aging and degenerative disease.
~ Helps protect against kidney disease and bladder infections, and dissolves kidney stones.
~ Helps prevent liver disease.

COCONUT GOODIES FROM HEAD TO TOE

Warm Coconut Oil Hair Treatment (one hair treatment)
Coconut oil has been used in India and other parts of Asia as a hair treatment for many years. Used as a hair treatment and a conditioner, coconut oil is known to add bounce and shine to dry and damaged hair. When combined with other essential oils, coconut oil makes an excellent dandruff treatment and promote hair growth. Recent research shows that coconut oil has the ability to penetrate the hair shaft and reduce protein loss as compared to other oils such as sunflower oils or mineral oils. Making a hair treatment out of a good quality coconut oil is fun and easy to do. Here is how.

Products & Tools
~ small ceramic bowl or cup
~ medium sauce pan with warm water
~ 4 tbsp virgin coconut oil
~ 4 drops each of essential oils of lavender and geranium for dry hair relief
~ 4 drops of any two of these: essential oils of rosemary, cedarwood, tea tree, or neem
~ wide-tooth comb
~ a gentle shampoo

1. Make sure your hair is shampooed and detangled.
2. Place coconut oil into small bowl or cup.
3. Place the cup in sauce pan with warm water to melt the oil gently.
4. Add essential oils to enhance the coconut oil treatment.
5. Massage oil into scalp for a few minutes. Ensure to coat the entire hair shaft including the ends.
6. Cover hair with a plastic shower cap.
7. Leave in hair for at least two hours; overnight for severely dry hair.
8. Rinse hair with a gentle shampoo or conditioner for the no-poo ladies.
9. Style as usual.

Coconut & Castor Oil Facial Spa (one facial treatment)
Products & Tools
~ 3 1/8 tsp of coconut oil
~ 1 1/8 tsp of castor oil
~ 1 drop of essential oils of rosemary and tea tree oil
~ medium-sized saucepan of water (prepare ahead of time so that you can take advantage of all the steamy goodness)
~ clean large bath towel
~ mild cleanser

1. Combine oils in the palm of your hand.
2. Rub together and massage onto face, neck and decolletage.
3. Lean or lay back and massage for a minimum of 5 minutes or up to 15 minutes, using upward circular strokes to encourage blood circulation and not pull the skin down.
4. After about 10 minutes, heat water in saucepan, bringing the water to a boil.
5. Remove from heat and set the pot in a location where you can easily and comfortably place your head 1 to 2 feet above the surface of the water.
6. If you like you can add a couple of essential oil drops to your water.
7. Lean over the pot and drape a bath towel over your head and around the edges of the pot. The towel should allow you to keep your face at a comfortable distance from the pan, while not allowing any spaces for the steam to escape.
8. Steam for about 10 minutes, allowing the steam to open your pores and release trapped impurities.
9. After about 10 minutes, lather your face with a mild cleanser of choice, massaging the cleanser on the skin for at least one minute before rinsing with warm water.
10. Finish your cleanse with cold water to close the pores. Follow with toner and moisturizer.

Coconut Rice & Peas (serves 8)
Ingredients
~ 1 15oz. can green pigeon peas, drained (or fresh is best of course)
~ 1/2 cup of diced white onion
~ 1/2 cup of diced green pepper
~ 2 cloves of minced garlic
~ 2 packets of dried chicken/vegetable stock (i prefer dried because it's less fatty)
~ 2 cups of coconut milk
~ 1 1/2 cups of water
~ 2 cups of rice

1. Drizzle the bottom of a large skillet with olive oil, and heat skillet over medium heat.
2. Add onions, peppers, peas and 1 packet of chicken/veggie dried veggie broth.
3. Allow to sautee until the onions are translucent.
4. Add the minced garlic and allow the garlic to soften.
5. Add remaining ingredients except the rice. Bring to a boil.
6. Stir in rice and cover.
7. Reduce the heat to low and simmer for twenty two minutes or until rice is tender.
8. Fluff gently with a fork to separate the rice.

Takiema's Coquito Recipe (courtesy of her grandmama)
Ingredients
~ 1 bottle white rum (i actually prefer dark rum)
~ 8 eggs
~ 3 cans evaporated milk
~ 1 can cream of coconut
~ 1 1/4 cup sugar
~ 1 can sweetened condensed milk
~ 1 oz almond extract
~ vanilla extract, to taste
~ nutmeg, to taste
~ cinnamon, to taste

1. Beat eggs, add sugar and sweet condensed milk
2. Add evaporated milk, cream of coconut, almond extract and vanilla
3. Add rum slowly while continuing to stir the mixture
4. Strain the mixture to ensure a smooth texture
5. Add nutmeg and cinnamon
6. Taste and edit as necessary

Takiema's Coconut Cornbread Recipe (12 large servings)
My new friend Takiema has been sharing yummy coconut recipes with me, including some wheat-free versions. I absolutely adore cornbread so I cannot wait to try this.

Ingredients
~ 2 2/3 cups all purpose flour
~ 1 1/3 cups yellow cornmeal
~ 2/3 cup sugar
~ 1 tbsp baking powder
~ 1 1/2 tsp baking soda
~ 1 1/2 tsp salt
~ 3 sticks unsalted butter (melt and cool)
~ 4 eggs
~ 3 cups milk
~ 2 tsp white vinegar
~ 1 cup dried unsweetened coconut flakes

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees
2. Lightly oil a 9 x 12 inch pan
3. Line the pan wth parchment paper
4. Sift dry ingredients together including flour, cornmeal, sugar, baking powder, baking soda, and salt
5. Wisk wet ingredients including melted butter, eggs, milk and white vinegar
6. Add combined wet ingredients to the dry mixture and stir until just combined.
7. Add coconut flakes
8. Pour into pan
9. Bake for 20-25 minutes

Dulce de Coco Milagroso (my aunt's coconut dreams dessert)
When I lived in New York, my aunt often dropped by our home during her errand runs with something to share. I always looked forward to what I call her "Dulce de Coco Milagroso" which I named after her (translation: Miraculous Coconut Sweets). I would divide my confection in half, one for the freezer and one for heating. So when I felt like having a warm bowl of dessert I'd just heat it slowly in a small saucepan. When I felt like eating it like a candy, I enjoyed the frozen treat. Can't wait to make this for lil' one.

Ingredients
~ 1 whole coconut, shredded
~ sugar to taste (I will use raw honey)
~ cinnamon powder
~ cinnamon stick
~ nutmeg

1. Shred the coconut. Boil coconut in a pot of water. Once it's tender.
2. Add cinnamon powder, cinnamon stick, shredded coconut and sugar/honey on low heat for 30 minutes
3. Stir occasionally to keep the mixture from sticking to the pot
4. Remove from heat and cool in refrigerator for 30 minutes before serving

Coconut Flour Pancakes by Takiema
Ingredients
~ 4 eggs, room temperature
~ 1 cup milk (raw cow’s or coconut both work) (silk or blue diamond vanilla almond milk-refrigerated)
~ 2 tsp vanilla extract
~ 1 tbsp honey/a pinch of stevia/agave nectar
~ 1/2 cup coconut flour
~ 1 tsp baking soda
~ 1/2 tsp sea salt
~ extra virgin coconut oil (for cooking)
~ 1/2 tsp aluminum free baking powder

1. Preheat griddle over medium-low heat.
2. In a small bowl beat eggs until frothy, about two minutes.
3. Mix in milk, vanilla, and honey or stevia agave.
4. In a medium-sized bowl combine coconut flour, baking soda, and sea salt and baking powder whisk together.
5. Stir wet mixture into dry until coconut flour is incorporated.
6. Grease pan with coconut oil.
7. Ladle a few tablespoons of batter into pan for each pancake, and spread out slightly with the back of a spoon.
8. The pancakes should be 2-3 inches in diameter and fairly thick. Cook for a few minutes on each side, until the tops dry out slightly and the bottoms start to brown.
9. Flip and cook an additional 2-3 minutes.
10. Serve hot with butter, coconut oil, honey, syrup, or fruit.

Coconut Flour Banana Bread
Ingredients
~ 2-3 very over-ripe bananas
~ 1/3 cup extra virgin coconut oil + some for baking
~ 6 eggs
~ 2 tbsp honey/agave nectar
~ 1 tbsp vanilla
~ 1/2 cup coconut flour
~ 1 tbsp cinnamon
~ 1/2 tsp salt
~ 1 tsp baking soda
~ 1 tsp baking powder
~ 1/4 cup nuts of your choice (optional)
~ appx 1/2 cup oatmeal flour (organic whole rolled oats, blended in coffee grinder or blender until it's a "flour")
~ approximately 1/3-1/2 cup vanilla almond milk

1. Melt butter. Stir in eggs, bananas, vanilla, & honey/agave.
2. Add coconut flour, oatmeal flour, cinnamon, salt, baking soda, & baking powder.
3. Gently mix in nuts
4. Generously grease a bread pan, then pour in batter.
5. Bake at 350° for about forty minutes, until a knife comes out clean. This won’t raise like the traditional stuff does, but I personally found it just as tasty.

Thanks to all the lovely friends and family who have shared amazing coconut recipes. I cannot wait to try them all.

Sweet Coconut Color Scheme

One Bike, Two Braids, Three Croaker Fish

2011-06-05T14:22:00.001-04:00

Last Friday we were at a red light when I looked over to my right and there I saw a yellow cruiser bike with a For Sale sign - $200. I immediately asked lil' one to read the phone number to me so I can call the seller. I asked some questions. He said some things. Then I told him I'd call back. I made some calls for some feedback and within 15 minutes I was meeting up with the seller.

When I took a look at the bike a little closer, I was disappointed to see it was a Men's bike AND it was took high for my liking. But was it beautiful; complete with wide balloon tires, upright seating position, single-speed operation, and a banana seat. When I told the seller that this might be too high for me, he let me know that he actually does have a few female bikes, including one that is 24 inches! I said let's go!

The paint on the frame on my Schwinn Fiesta 1965 Beach Cruiser is chipped, but it's a beautiful forest green color. The previous owners were not very loving to the bike. However, Juan, the restoration artist can really work some magic. I was able to get this bike, as is, for $60! So far, it has new tires, a wireframe shopping basket. Juan planned to order splash guards and a banana seat for the bike. I told him that we should go ahead with the makeover, but for now, the bike is good to go.

Schwinn bicycles are by far the most commonly sought after brand for many collectors. Schwinn's quality since the early days was unsurpassed. So I'm happy to own one now.

This is my sweet bike now. I love the shopping basket and I actually do like the black and white seat, but I have always appreciated banana seats. Still iffy on that one. I do look forward to the splash guards.

Perhaps in the near future I can get a paint job in the exact same color. I love my new old bike! Lil' one and I rode our bikes in the morning.

After our ride, we showered and dressed to go have lunch. I decided to try two braids. I like it. It was fast and kept my hair off my neck - very hot day.

Later that evening we had a fish fry that turned out beautifully. I'll share the details in another post.

Hope you had a great weekend!

♥☺ Carmen

Music Box: Bachata en Fukuoka

2011-06-05T09:54:00.006-04:00

Juan Luis Guerra is one of my favorite Dominican artists. His songs are beautiful. His lyrics are exquisite. This song is based on Juan Luis Guerra's experience during his trip to Fukuoka, Japan where he performed. He wrote the song while there.

Bachata en Fukuoka
Dile a la mañana que se acerca mi sueño
Que lo que se espera con paciencia se logra
Nueve horas a París viajé sin saberlo
Y crucé por Rusia con escala en tu boca

Yo canté tu bachata aquí en Fukuoka
Tu bachata en Fukuoka

Y un atardecer pintó de canvas el cielo
Caminé la playa de Momochi, mi anhelo
Y se me escapó una sonrisa del alma
Aquí me enseñó arigato gozaimasu

Yo canté tu bachata aquí en Fukuoka

Pa’ bailar contigo, pa’ bailar
Se me alegra la nota
Quiero cantar contigo, quiero
Una bachata en Fukuoka

Una bachata en Fukuoka, pa’ soñar contigo
En el mar las gaviotas

Con tu piel de abrigo, quiero
Vivir bachata en Fukuoka

Y llegó la hora de partir y decir sayonara,
con pocas ganas
Y una palomita se posó en mi ventana
Kon’nichi wa!, ohayoo gozaimasu

Pa’ bailar contigo, pa’ bailar
Se me alegra la nota
Quiero cantar contigo, quiero
Una bachata en Fukuoka

Una bachata en Fukuoka

Sueños, de arena en las olas
Besos, me daba tu boca
Tengo, estrellas y rosas
Niña, cantando en Fukuoka

Pa’ bailar contigo, para bailar
Se me alegra la nota
Quiero cantar contigo, quiero
Una bachata en Fukuoka

Una bachata en Fukuoka, pa’ soñar contigo
En el mar las gaviotas

Con tu piel de abrigo
Vivir bachata en Fukuoka

Bachata in Fukuoka
Tell the morning, my dream is approaching
All that's awaited with patience is reached
Travelled nine hours to Paris, not knowing
Crossed over Russia with a stop to your lips

I sang your bachata here in Fukuoka
Your bachata in Fukuoka

And a sunset was painted on canvas, the sky
I walked the beach of Momochi, my longing
And a smile escaped my soul
Here she taught me arigato gozaimasu

I sang your bachata here in Fukuoka

To dance with you, to dance
My music rejoices
I want to sing with you, I want
A bachata in Fukuoka

A bachata in Fukuoka, to dream of you
In the sea, the gulls

With your skin as my cover, I want to
Live bachata in Fukuoka

The hour to part and say sayōnara,
so unwillingly
And a small dove perched on my window
Kon’nichi wa! ohayoo gozaimasu

To dance with you, to dance
My music rejoices
I want to sing with you, I want
A bachata in Fukuoka

A bachata in Fukuoka

Dreams, of sand in the waves
Kisses, your lips gave mine
I've got, stars and roses
Girl, singing in Fukuoka

To dance with you, to dance
My music rejoices
I want to sing with you, I want
A bachata in Fukuoka

A bachata in Fukuoka, to dream of you
In the sea, the gulls

With your skin as my cover, I want to
Live a bachata in Fukuoka

♥☺ Carmen

On the Menu: Coconut Rice & Peas

2011-06-01T21:11:00.001-04:00

Extracted from my "Ode to the Coconut" post, which is coming soon, here is one of the recipes we'll be sharing - coconut rice & peas. This aromatic dish is an exhilirating accompaniment to seafood, a spinach salad, or just by itself.

Benefits of Coconut Milk
~ Helps maintain blood sugar levels.
~ Helps maintain skin and blood vessel flexibility and elasticity.
~ Aids in building strong bones.
~ Helps prevent anemia.
~ Relaxes muscles and nerves.
~ Helps control weight.
~ Decreases the risk of joint inflammation.
~ Helps lower high blood pressure.
~ Helps maintain a healthy immune system.
~ Promotes the health of prostate gland.

For more information about the above mentioned benefits click here.

Enjoy!

♥☺ Carmen

Poppies: Out of the Blue

2011-05-26T17:40:00.000-04:00

ask me to dance

Writing has always been my go-to for consolation, relaxation and as a way to escape. Imagine my surprise to have discovered that drawing makes me smile, soothes my restless mind, and gets the butterflies in my stomache fluttering. I'm very excited about this new series of illustrations because for a long time I've been struggling with these discombobulated visions in my mind that are now taking shape. I was never sure if I was supposed to write about these images or what. As soon as I illustrated my first one, one of the many restless points in my mind finally came to rest.

As I was creating an illustration of lil' one, she shared her unsolicited feedback with me. Lil' one is all about fun, patterns, bright colors, music that moves you, clothes that say something about you, nothing subtle with this one. So although she likes illustrations like the one above, she wanted her girl to be different with mix-matched patterns, a rainbow of colors and playful clothing.

cupcakes & lollipops

This is what we came up with and she loves it. She can't wait until we have it printed and framed for her bedroom wall.

I'd love to create interpretations of all the beautiful ladies and girls that I come across in my life.

♥☺Carmen

Shopping List: Restocking Hair & Skin Care Supply

2011-05-26T12:49:00.002-04:00

I am very proud of myself. Usually, I buy hair & beauty products that end up collecting dust in my cabinets and shelves because I get bored and want to try something new, because I'm impatient wanting quick results, but mostly because I'm just not a routine kind of girl. However, this year I have actually stuck to some staples hair and skin products and I actually have empty containers! When writing my restock list I thought it'd be nice to share it, along with a little visual. It's a pretty sweet list if I do say so myself.

1. extra virgin coconut oil
2. shea butter
3. rose water mist
4. aloe vera juice
5. henna
6. raw honey
7. dove soap
8. crystal deodarant

Off to the market.
♥☺ Carmen

Ultramarine Blue is my New Black

2011-05-25T11:16:00.000-04:00

Lately I've been drawn to blue clothing, specifically ultramarine blue. I love black, but would like to brighten it up a bit. Ultramarine blue does it for me. I hope the fashion gods will appease me and allow me to replace my surplus of black pieces with blue.

Top @ Marshall's
Guess Shorts @ Plato's Closet
Brown open-toe wedges @ Payless

♥☺ Carmen

P.S. Trudy's in Austin, TX makes a super smooth Margarita!

Poppy Fields: I've Been Waiting For You

2011-05-25T03:54:00.000-04:00

Knowing you would come back -

Restlessly waiting for you.

Praying I'd never see you again,

Yet preparing for your return.

Not knowing what you want from me,

Nor how it is you overcome me.

I suppose I will always have a place for you.

I suppose you will always be sure of that.

I've thrown away that key - many many times,

Yet you always seem to break into me.

Here we go,

Again.

Music Box: I've Been Loving You Too Long

2011-05-14T23:29:00.000-04:00

The first time I heard this song I nearly fell off my chair. The words - heart wrenching. The voice - moving. Just love this song.

Hope you're having a lovely weekend :)

♥☺ Carmen

I Only Used One Product on my Hair - One Product!

2011-05-14T03:23:00.002-04:00

On this day I was in a particular rush to get back to work and I didn't feel like going through the whole moisturizing and sealing process. So I decided to only use my one blended product. Results - SWEET! Backtrack <<

I was in a merge-and-purge mood the other day. I had a bit of honey left (about a teaspoon and a half) in a jar and I wanted to get rid of the jar. I added the honey to a leave-in-conditioner I'm trying out; Original Mane 'n Tail Conditioner. Fast-forward >>

Results - SWEET!

What I like:
I only used "one" product on my hair - one product!
That one product provided a mild hold, acted as a sealant, left my ends super smooth with some sheen, no frizz, one less step and some extra time.

Benefits claimed by Original Mane ‘n Tail Conditioner:
Fortifies the hair shaft preventing breakage and split ends.
Nourishes and conditions hair and scalp while delivering essential moisture to dry, damaged, neglected hair.
Keeps hair tangle free, soft, manageable, renewed and healthy while achieving longer, stronger, fuller looking and feeling hair.
Effective as a leave-in or rinse out conditioner based on hair type and condition.
Safe and gentle for all hair types.

Ingredients include:
Water, Stearamidopropyl, Dimethylamine Lactate, Distearyldimonium Chloride, Stearyl Alcohol, Emulsifying Wax NF, Cetyl Alcohol, Coconut Oil, Glycerin, Sodium Chloride, Vegetable Oil, Fragrance, Hydrolyzed Protein, Lanolin, Phenoxyethanol, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, F D & C Yellow #5

Yes, I know alcohols, long scientific names, wax - but my hair likes it and if my hair is happy, I'm happier. I'm going to continue to use this product throughout the summer and see how my hair holds up.

Although I LOVE being able to use just ONE product, I will stick to my coconut oil sealant because I am faithfully in love with it and it makes my hair extra soft. However, it's good to know that I can get away with the "one" product when necessary.

How about you, curls? Have you gotten away with using just one product? Have you tried this Mane n' Tail Conditioner before? If so, what do you think? If not, give it a try and let me know how it works for you.

I Will Not Have My Child to Raise Over Again

2011-05-11T01:33:00.006-04:00

~Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Emile, 1762

If I had my child to raise all over again,

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

~Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog carnival, hosted by Attachment Parenting International.

Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International.

♥☺ Carmen

P.S. I hurt my neck playing hopskotch. How pathetic!

Every Day is Mothers Day

2011-05-11T00:34:00.001-04:00

I gave a 1982 family portrait some much needed TLC. I forget how, but it was torn, water-damaged, etc. In this picture my mom is wearing one my favorite dresses. It's one of those dresses I wish she would have kept in her closet for me to snag one day.

Mami, I've written you so many super mushy cards and letters expressing my gratitude and love for you. This time I would like to keep it light and simple. I LOVE YOU!!! In other words...

Mi madre es un poema

Cual nunca podre escribir,

Aunque todo lo que escribo

Es un poema para mi madre.

~ Sharon Dubiano

***

My mother is a poem

I'll never be able to write,

Although everything I write

Is a poem to my mother.

~Sharon Doubiano

I May Not Always...But I Will Always

2011-05-02T00:18:00.000-04:00

I may not always have the answers for you, but I will always be your sounding board.
I may not always know the right path, but I will always walk beside you.
I may not always keep the monsters away, but I will always face them with you.
I may not always keep you from getting hurt, but I will always help you heal.
Lil' one, you may not always need me, but I will always be there.

"Think Left and Think Right and Think Low and Think High..."

2011-04-30T04:04:00.000-04:00

Sheillustrations

"Think left and think right and think low and think high.

Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!"

~ Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Thinks You Can Think!

Where does she come up with this stuff? When lil' one shows me one of her drawings, I ask her "How did you come up with this? Did you see it somewhere?" and she responds "No, it's in my head?" I think these characters are awesome. I love the little dog.

When it comes to my creative side, lil' one is my biggest inspiration. She keeps reminding me to not be afraid to create what's in my head and not look to what's been done.

"I paint objects as I think them, not as I see them."

~ Pablo Picasso

I Don't Want to Grow Up

2011-04-30T03:08:00.002-04:00

quote by Sophia Loren

It's been happening for quite a while now. Lil' one has started to contemplate mortality and dealing with sadness and worry. "I don't want to grow up. Well, I can grow up to be 35, but then I want to stay that way forever. And, I want the same thing to happen to you and grandma." This is what she said to me last night when I tucked her in. My heart aches knowing that my carefree, happy child is worrying about illness, aging, and death. I want to promise her that I'll be here forever and ever; that I'll take good care of myself, and never fall ill. I want to protect my child from those dark thoughts and just stick to sunshine and rainbows. But, the thing is that she is growing up.

I pray that I can instill courage in my child to not be afraid and to face life head on with gusto, pom poms, and will. To simply live and not ponder our limitations. To just be and not worry about what may not be.

So lil' one, I hear what you're saying. Goodness, when she was about 9 months old, I remember thinking how much I would miss this "version" of her and I wanted her to stay that way forever. Although I do miss that 9 month old girl, I am even more thrilled with the 9 year old girl. Let's look forward to this life we have, but let's not look so far ahead that we miss out on the experience.

Lil' one, I say let's not grow old. But, certainly let's do all we can to grow UP and grow BOLD.

It's Black, It's White

2011-04-30T01:39:00.001-04:00

There was a time in my life when I was so concrete about my opinions, values and path. Everything was either here or there, right or wrong, black or white, up or down, left or right - yet I was always able to put myself in other's shoes. Nowadays, I find myself feeling right and wrong, black and white, up and down, sometimes here nor there, and frankly, trying to figure other people out is burning me out - there are days this airiness drives me crazy.

Today I consciously wore black and white because it's time to make concrete decisions and take the appropriate actions. It's time to get away for a couple of days - no calls, no emails, no errands, no deadlines, just me and my issues coming clean and taking forward-moving steps. It's time to decide where I stand, what is best, and what in the world Carmen really wants...

I knew I wanted this top as soon as I walked into Zara. I've had this top for almost a year and this is only the second I've worn it. Although I adore it, I just couldn't come up with the right hairstyle to go with the top. I think my ideal hairstyle with this top would be a straight or curly bob, but right now my hair is in layers. I'm really trying to not wash my hair every single day, but I just can't seem to do the 2nd hair day thing, hence the bun.

I think it works.

♥☺ Carmen

Bouclés Belle of the Month ~ GG Hill

2011-04-27T23:02:00.002-04:00

Where do I begin? I came across GG's blog,The Write Curl Diary, in winter 2010. I was truly impressed with not only her writing, but the fact that this young wife, mother, and professional manages to write so much, so well, and so frequently. GG is my blog hero! Stop by her lovely blog and you'll see what I mean. After a few connections via Twitter and blog commentary exchanges, I was approached by GG to redesign another blog, Peace, Love & Pretty Things and laterThe Write Curl Diary. So not only has GG become my blog hero, penpal, and a dream client, she is also May's Boucles Belle as she rocks a gorgeous head of curls.

The Write Curl

Age?
33

Profession?
By day, I work in financial services.

Length? Curly? Stretched?
My hair is a little past bra-strap length when stretched. When curly, it can be neck length or shoulder length depending on shrinkage.

How long have you been natural?
I've been natural for almost two years, but I transitioned for three years.

Why did you decide to embrace your natural hair?
When I was in my late twenties, I reached a point where I was ready to make some changes in my life. Like so many parts of myself, I didn't believe my hair was beautiful unless it was altered. My choice to grow out my natural hair was symbolic of my decision to get reacquainted with my true self.

Tell me about your transition from chemicals to natural.
I grew out the relaxer gradually. No big chop for me. I wore it straight the entire time and got frequent trims. Once or twice a month, I would browdry and flatiron it, then maintain by pincurling at night. Towards the end, I started doing braid outs more often. This worked very well for me. Most people (who didn't know me) didn't notice that I was doing anything different with my hair until I showed up to work one day with a bush!

What is your daily hair care routine?
It varies! It really depends on how I'm wearing it. For the past few months, I've been doing mostly protective styling so my hair is up 90% of the time. At night I take it down, lightly moisturize and scarf it up. When I'm doing twist/braid outs, I prefer to retwist every night because I get less knots this way. I don't always have time to do anything at night, so worst case scenario is throwing my hair in a ponytail on top of my head and sleeping on a satin pillowcase!

How long does it take you to do your hair in the morning?
Usually about 10 - 15 minutes. Ironically, wash-and-go's take the longest!   I hardly ever wear that style though. Most of the work goes into preparing my hair at night. In the morning, it's usually just a matter of taking it down or throwing it in a bun. I try to keep it as simple as I can.

Do you have any weekly/monthly/regular hair care treatments as well?
Yes! Everytime I wash, I either pre-poo, deep condition or henna.   I also do oil rinses occasionally. All of these things are intended to either strengthen or moisturize my hair. The most I shampoo my hair (in the winter anyway) is twice a month. In the summer it's way more often. In the summer I might shampoo my hair twice a month still, but will likely throw in some co-washes in between.

What products do you use? Which are your favorites? And why?
I have a lot of products, but there is a method to my madness.  Once I try a product, it will either become a staple or something to keep in the closet in case of an emergency. If I don't like it at all, obviously I won't buy it again.   My favorites (right now) are:

Shampoo:
Curls Creamy Curl Cleanser
SheaMoisture Shea Butter Shampoo

Cowash Conditioners:
Tresemme Naturals Nourishing Moisture
Aussie Moist
Herbal Essences Hello Hydration
Yes to Cucumbers

Deep Conditioners:
Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose Conditioner
Pantene Curly Hair Deep Treatment
Cholesterol

Moisturizing/Detangling Spray:
MTM Homemade Spray: Distilled Water, Aloe Vera Juice, Fermodyl 619, KC Knot Today
Jane Carter Solution Revitalizing Leave-In Conditioner
Bee Mine Juicy Spray
Infusium Moisturizing Leave-In Treatment
Creamy Leave-In Conditioner:Kinky Curly Knot Today, Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Conditioner, Giovanni Direct Leave-In, and Deva One One Condition

Creamy Moisturizers/Styling Creams:
Bee Mine Luscious Moisturizer
Carol's Daughter Hair Milk
Miss Jessie's Baby Buttercreme

Oils/Butters/Sealers:
Bee Mine Hair and Scalp Moisturizer
Oyin Handmade Burnt Sugar Pomade
Homemade shea butter, coconut oil, aloe mix
EEOO
Castor Oil
Grapeseed Oil
Tea Tree Oil

If you could only be allowed one product, which would it be?
OK, so you see that list I just gave you and I have to narrow it down to one? Haha, OK, I would go with the homemade shea-coco-aloe mix. It's cheap and it moisturizes beautifully.

Any favorite hairstyles for your curls?
I love big, reckless twist outs the best! These days, I only wear this style on special occasions because I always get a lot of knots as a result. I'm starting to really like buns as well. For functional reasons obviously, buns are great. I work and I have three kids and a very busy life. But I'm also starting to really enjoy how big and fat my buns are getting.

Any styles you'd like to try?
I have yet to be successful at wearing two strand twists. I was able to wear them in a bun, but I want to be able to wear them down. My hair is not super thick. I have a lot of hair from a volume perspective, but my strands are fine, so when it's twisted it just looks very scalpy to me. I'm wondering if I could figure out someway to sort of "plump" the twists, if that would help. I'm going to try it this summer. Also, I haven't done a roller set on my hair in a long time. I want to try that again soon to see how that works on my hair at this length.

Hair ambitions/goals in the next year?
Waist Length in 2011!!!! I'm going to continue to keep my hair in protective styles 90% of the time to reach my goal. I've implemented henna for strengthening and I'm learning about porosity to make sure that I'm moisturizing my hair effectively.

Where do you get your hair cut? How often do you cut/trim your hair?
I "dust" my hair several times a month. For example, when I'm twisting I'll snip the ends just a bit to cut off any knots or damage that I see. I only get it professionally trimmed once or twice a year, and I'll just go to Hair Cuttery or to my old hairdresser for that.

If and when you wear heat-styled do's - what do you do?
I do blow dry occasionally. I'll blow dry on a medium setting. Then, I'll braid it or twist it. When I wear it straight, I'll follow up blowdrying by either flatironing and wrapping or curling it with a bumper and pincurling it. It's rare that I do those styles though.

Anything you would like to know more about when it comes to caring for or styling curly hair?
As you know, I'm totally into this porosity thing right now! I believe that's the key to keeping my hair moisturized the way it wants to be. Also, now that I've tried henna, I'd like to experiment with other ayurvedic treatments like amla and cassia. That won't be anytime soon though. Maybe next year :)

Length Check ~ Six Months

2011-04-27T21:30:00.003-04:00

Lil' one AKA MommyCritic says I look creepy in this picture because I look tired. LOL!

Hair length has never been a big deal to me. As a matter of fact, I used to cut my hair so often I never gave it a chance to grow past my shoulder blades. After several months I'd get restless and want to try something different. I've sported a short pixie crop, a chic boy-cut, a classic bob with bangs, choppy layers, and more. After having lil' one, I went through longer periods between haircuts; getting haircuts more out of due diligence than boredom. Once we moved to Florida, where I wasn't comfortable putting my hair in anyone's hands, my hair managed to get way past my shoulder blades. Now that I'm curly most of the time, I find it fun to observe my hair's growth and progress.

Curly hair is special in that one head of hair can have several lengths. There's your wash-n-go length (usually the shortest), the straight length (the longest), then there are in-between lengths depending on what hair style you choose, including roller sets, twist-outs, etc. So about a week ago as I was getting groceries, I noticed that my curls (not my straightened hair) were brushing up against my neck and shoulders and I realized that my hair has grown a lot in the past few months. Then I remembered that I took pictures of my cut 5/6 months ago and I was curious to see the difference. So here is the progress my hair has made in the past five months.

These pictures also remind me that it is time for me to do a henna treatment. I'm debating whether to go black or stick with my brown hues. What do you think?

Meditation on Loyalty

2011-04-21T09:29:00.000-04:00

God is equally present in all, but in the heart of the spiritually minded, loyal person, who thinks only of Him, God is most definitely expressed. God is the secret of all mental power, peace, and prosperity. He is the real source of all that is desirable in life. Through your loyalty to God, you can establish your oneness with Him. Realize your soul's perfection. Be loyal, as loyalty attracts the Divine Attention. When the storms of life gather, and the waves of trials buffet you, guide the boat of your life safely to the divine shores by realizing His omnipresence.

by Paramahansa Yogananda

A Great End to a Work Day

2011-04-05T23:57:00.002-04:00

Spring Break! Woo hoo!

Last week was lil' one's Spring Break, and although we couldn't take off the whole week with her, we packed up our laptops and work files, and headed down to Delray Beach for her break.

During the mornings and afternoons cuddlier-half and I handled business while lil' one got to sleep in and play. We ate our lunches together at home or at our favorite local deli (homemade pickles!). But, the BEST part was ending our work days at the beach. We agreed that this was a routine we could EASILY get used to.

Lil' one showing me her ocean dance.

I struggled with feeling guilty about working all day and through the night while she was home. She wanted me to play every game, watch every funny thing on TV, draw with her, cuddle with her - and lately I have found myself saying "Give me one minute..." so many times that she's even saying it with me. Heading down to the beach made having fun, taking breaks, and spending quality time so much easier.

Drawing jellyfish. We spotted six that day!

We cooked together, ate together, worked together, and we played together - so we shared a lot of good times, we were productive, and I even got to relax (a little bit).

Sigh... can't wait to go back.

These days I am HAPPILY bombarded with so much work that relaxing has become a distant memory. I feel like it's time for me to stand back and reconfigure my daily timeline because right now it's all work, work, work, and although I am extremely grateful for the work, work, work - my habits as of late are not healthy. I've hardly exercised in the past month. I haven't finished a book because when I hit the pillow, the pillow knocks me out (I read in bed). I am aching to write and draw. When I wake up, I think about work and before my body gives in to sleep - thinking about work. I've always been a workaholic but...

Okay, I promise myself that tomorrow I am going for an afternoon power walk no matter how hard my mind fights me to work.

This has become a newfound challenge of working from home. I can get to work instantly and it's always at arm's reach. Therefore, it's becoming harder for me to stay away from my workstation. On top of that, my workstation is entirely mobile so I take my work with me wherever I go - just in case.

Yes, it's time to sit back, reassess, reconfigure and prioritize.

My Peace, Love & Pretty Things Interview!

2011-03-24T00:37:00.003-04:00

Take a look at my Peace Love & Pretty Things interview. The ladies posed some great questions, which I thought would be super easy to answer when I first skimmed through the questions. I soon found out that it's not so simply,or I'm not so simple - big surprise there ;)

Anyhow, the questions helped me not to be so hard on myself - from certain perspectives - because I've come a long way. However, the questions also reminded me of certain areas where I must light a fire under my toes because I can go WAY further.

I'm honored that the PLPT team asked me to be a GEM! Check it out.

♥☺ Carmen

On the Menu: Sauteed Salmon

2011-03-21T20:20:00.004-04:00

Every week we go through a mental list of meals we can cook during the week that will be healthy, delicious, and not take too long to prepare. So far the list includes:

Spaghetti w/ turkey meatballs, sauteed garlic spinach, toasted french bread and a salad
Fish 'n Chips (my version) ~ Batter-free tilapia filets cooked in canola oil, roasted sweet potato fries, and salad
Lentils n' Brown Rice/Chickpeas 'n Rice with roasted lemon pepper chicken (from Publix) which we cut into 8ths, spice up a little more and warm in the oven, and a spinach salad
Spanish Tortilla ~ eggs, onions, red and green peppers, garlic, sweet potatoes, sweet peas, a little feta cheese, olive oil. Accompanied by either a simple soup, tostones (fried plantains), or a salad.
Carmenwiches (as named by the fam) French bread, with a smear of canola-based mayo, smoked turkey, roasted ham, genoa salami (3:1:.5 ratio), provologne or sharp cheddar, shredded lettuce, super-thin sliced tomatoes, super-thin sliced onions, thinly-sliced green peppers, pickles, and then a simple dressing of olive oil, oregano, and black pepper.

There may be more, and that's the point of this post. I want to have a handy list of meals so that we don't have to struggle each week planning meals and grocery shopping. And, this will help me mix n' match and be creative, so we don't get in a rut. I'll add to my list and keep it here to share and remember.

Yesterday we had lunch at one of my favorite restaurants - Hillstone. Although everything is scrumptious, I almost always get the veggie burger with shoestring fries. Cuddlier-half ordered a grouper sandwich and had a side of veggies, which was a beautiful medley of sauteed potatoes, green beans, corn, sweet peas, and kalamata olives. The medley inspired today's meal AND will now be included in our weekly arsenal of meals.

Today's meal, sauteed salmon, veggie medley, and steamed brown rice. I gave the steamed brown rice a head start of about 15-20 minutes, as it takes the longest to cook.

Sauteed Salmon

I heated two pans and covered both in a thin layer of olive oil. I sauteed onion, garlic and red and green bell peppers with salt and pepper in one pan; onions and garlic in the other. I cut the salmon filet into six pieces, seasoned in a dry rub, and placed the salmon in the pan with the bell peppers, allowing the salmon to sear for about 6 minutes. I then lowered the heat, turned the salmon over and allowed it to cook for about 10 more minutes.

Veggie Medley

At the same time, I threw red potato wedges in the other pan and allowed those to cook for about 6-8 minutes before putting in the green beans - seasoning to taste with salt, pepper, and dry herbs. I allowed those to cook for about 4-6 minutes before adding the corn and shitake mushrooms. When there were about 2 minutes left, I tossed in kalamata olive slices.

Now, I'm going to dig in, get lil' one ready for bed, and then back to work.

♥☺ Carmen

What's My Hair Porosity???

2011-03-05T15:39:00.001-05:00

I had to take a quick break for some hair and camera play today. I did the Sink-or-Float Test to determine the level of porosity of my hair. Here's what happened:

After shampooing my hair I filled a glass with water and placed two strands of my hair in the glass.

As you can see, the strands are floating and they even have beads of water surrounding the strands.

I left the hair in the glass overnight to see what, if anything, would happen. The strands were still floating and the beads of water were still surrounding the strands.

I then decided to move the strands around a little to see if the beads would form again or...

The beads did not surround the hair strands AND my hair sank a little. It's as if the beads were little floaties keeping my hair afloat.

I then lifted the glass and my hair sank all the way to the bottom of the glass.

Sooo - where does that leave me? Based on this round, I don't know if I actually started out with low porosity hair that after time increased in porosity. So, I'll have to do the test again. This time, I'll move it around as soon as I put the strands of hair in the glass to see if they sink right away.

♥☺ Carmen

P.S. Hair in water makes for interesting pictures. Hmmm...

Curly Hair Porosity

2011-03-04T02:08:00.000-05:00

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My pal GG over at The Write Curl Diary put together some great information about hair porosity which may shed some light on our hair care needs and wants. I'm doing my strand test mañana!

Besides, her post includes lovely pictures {see above} for hair and fashion inspiration. I just adore this look. I want this dress. I'll also take the shoes.

Read on...

Sweet Dreams, My Dearest

2011-02-23T00:32:00.000-05:00

Sweet Dreams, Shei-bear!

Let us celebrate them...

2011-02-21T12:11:00.002-05:00

This past weekend was cuddlier-half's birthday party. Celebrating children's birthdays is special because we are celebrating each year of their development, growth, maturity and just how thrilling they are. As adults I believe each birthday becomes all the more special because we're celebrating survival, strength, wisdom, love, loss, gain, health, and gratitude.

I've had my moments of bemoaning getting older, especially since I still can't believe I am an "adult" with a child of my own. But, this past year I've developed a greater appreciation for age and what it means. I'm being more Carmen Cardoza than I have in many years and I am so thankful!

my cuddlier half

Thanks, for loving me despite my PITA moments and in a way, because of my PITA moments. Thanks for cheering me on and embracing me. Thanks for your kindness and patience. Thanks for insisting we have fun!

3g: me, mami, and Shei-bear

Thanks for showing me what true, unconditional, undeniable, fulfilling love really is! Thanks for inspiring me each and every day.

Thanks for reminding me to let loose and let go!

these girls are not shy!

Thanks for girls who just wanna have fun!

Thanks for happy children that warm my heart.

me and Mandykins

Thanks for friends with whom I can share trials, tribulations and plain old silly moments.

me, mami, and Mandykins

Thanks for opportunities to express how much I love and care for those in my life.

me and my bro

Thanks for people who I would do anything in the world for and who may just do the same for me.

♥☺ Carmen

Delicious Quietude of 6am

2011-02-17T10:48:00.000-05:00

A couple of weeks ago I started to do my yoga sequence at 6am. It kind of just happened. That first week I was childless and cuddlier-half-less, so I was going to bed at 11pm and waking up at 6am without an alarm. The first morning this happened I thought about heading straight to the computer in my incessant quest to get ahead of my workload, but instead I decided to relish in that special quietude of 6am and raise the sun with some yoga. It was amazing! Not only did the sequence balance out my limbs and strengthen my mind and body, but I truly woke up with the sun. By the time I was finished I felt invigorated. What's more, I didn't feel guilty about sitting for long hours at a time because I prepared my body for it.

Waking up an hour earlier and starting the day with yoga while a good portion of your world is asleep is lovely. Now off to conquer the day!

♥☺ Carmen